I love having discussions with people who get me and people who understand my points of view. I’m also totally fine with people who have different ideas about some of the issues that concern us, but one thing I’m never going to be fine with is people who never admit that they’re wrong or that they’ve crossed a line. I’m sure you can relate as these people are more common than we believe.
People handle jokes differently because the perception and interpretation of jokes by individuals differ. There are people that don’t mind being the subjects of jokes and there are others that will easily be offended. The fact that we are different people means that we should be able to accept that not everyone will see things our way and that’s why we need to know when to draw the line.
I posted a screenshot of an offensive tweet once. It was a joke and it was funny at the time but a reaction I got from my friend made me understand what I had done. The joke wasn’t even mine and all I did was screenshot and repost but I realized that if I was the subject of the joke, I’d be hurt too. It didn’t even matter if my friend could take the joke or not and it didn’t even matter that it wasn’t exactly directed at her. At that point, I already felt terrible. I kept apologizing and I took it down but I learned a huge lesson that day.
My friend once said “sometimes, we underestimate the power of jokes. It might seem harmless to you but might be harmful to the receiving end”. The honest truth is that just because you don’t intend to hurt or offend anyone with your jokes does not make it right when you do. It is not the intention, it is the effect these jokes have on people and so, we should watch it.
Some people will come with the ”you’re too serious” or ”you’re taking things personally” lines but if someone says he/she doesn’t appreciate a joke, you should take note and apologise instead of trying to justify your actions. We should also be careful with our words.
There’s a Big Difference Between Humor and DisrespectNatalie Frank, Ph.D.
Natalie Frank in her blog post said ”do you really want to risk hurting someone if you can avoid it?”
The screenshot above is another angle I’d really love to address because if people do not know when to draw the line, you have to draw it for them. You don’t sit back and allow people to disrespect you in the name of ”I was joking”. There’s a limit to everything and there are boundaries.
I will never understand how people that are not close to a person make jokes that are insulting. I’m not saying I’m in support of close friends who make insulting jokes about each other but I guess it’s understandable because they are close and they’ll probably not take it seriously. But you see those ones that don’t know anything about you, coming from no angle of the triangle to throw shade and call it jokes, you have to stamp your foot and tell them as it is.
If you’ve read up to this point, I’d like to thank you for sticking with me. Here on Ruonaahsculture, I try as best as possible not to mince words and ensure that I address issues as they are. On that note, let’s be mindful of the kinds of jokes we make. Don’t just open your mouth waaaa and start spewing nonsense. I’ve advised you as best as I can so please, take heed.
I hope you’re good and I hope you’re in a safe place. Until next time loves,
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