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Before Your Valentine.

I shouldn’t do this, especially since it’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow but if I don’t tell you the truth, who will?

All I want to do is give you friendly advice and I’d like to start by saying:

May you not be stuck in one spot, anchored by the profound, desperate loneliness of a bad relationship.

Can I get an Amen?

There’s no denying that love is a beautiful thing but you’ll agree with me that not all love is love. I have learned from observation that people mistake love for a lot of things and it’s sad. People mistake love for attention, sex, and material things among others but these things don’t even begin to define what love is. Some people are so desperate to be with someone and so scared to be alone that they’ll settle for anything and somehow trick their minds into believing that it’s right.

So, as you do your lovers stuff tomorrow, I just want to remind you that love is so much more than what we see. The moment you realize that in your relationship, you’re beginning to settle, you know that there’s an issue somewhere.

You should mean as much to your partner as they mean to you. You shouldn’t have to fight to be heard in your relationship. Your opinions should matter and you should have more good memories than bad. You should feel the love not just in words but in actions too. Your fights shouldn’t be against each other. You should know that when fights happen, it’s not you against him/her but both of you against the issue. Don’t forget. There should be an effort on both sides because a relationship involves giving and taking.

In the end, we know that there’s no perfect relationship because these things are filled with ups and downs (Cheating isn’t one of them. Don’t even think about it) but in the end, you have to know what you want and be sure that you’re not settling for less than you deserve. You have to be sure that you’re not lying to yourself or making excuses for a partner that does not intend to change. See your relationship for what it is.

As I said, it’s just friendly advice I’m giving to you but if you’re beginning to reconsider your relationship, it’s probably for the best. I mean, why spend so much money and put time and effort into a partner that doesn’t deserve it when you can spend this money on me?

Please, you can send me a dm on Instagram to ask me for my address or account number just in case you want to redirect your gifts. You know I mean well. You can also send pictures and videos to me so I can scream “aww” and “God when”.

Shoutout to every genuine person who does not need a specific day to show love or perform romantic gestures because you do it all year round (I don’t mean the ones that say this as an excuse). You are the real MVPs.

Have a splendid Valentine’s Day.

Love,

‘Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

I didn’t publish last week and nobody looked for me. Wow. Just wow.

I forgive you. How are you doing?

What do you think about people that settle in relationships?

Do you have plans for Valentine’s Day or you’re part of the “aww” and “God when” crew like me?

Please make use of the comment box. You know how much I love reading from and replying you! 💜

Author:

I'm Oseruona Asak, popularly known as 'Ruona. I think it’s weird that I cannot describe myself perfectly but I’m passionate about those things that are close to my heart, including sharing my thoughts with you.

16 thoughts on “Before Your Valentine.

  1. It is very dangerous if you ask me. I am with you on people knowing their worth an refusing to just settle for anyone.
    My Val is in Owerri and here I am in Delta State 😂😂anyway I still belong to the “awww” and “God when”
    Happy Valentine’s day To Us All💕💖❤💓💕💖❤💓💕💖

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  2. Proud member of the “God when” crew.
    It’s honestly better to be alone than struggle so hard in an unhealthy relationship!
    I sha love love🤧… next year I will have Val🥱✌🏾

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  3. Single men association am the oga
    Nice piece
    Fake love is just too much
    People nowadays tend to love things than people😔😔😔

    Like

  4. Omo.. this love thing is complicated and have tire me personally… Everyone always have something to say when it comes to love.. at the end do what’s on your mind

    Like

  5. We no dey celebrate o, me and my babe go dey house dey follow una dey do “God when” 😂, I’m not saying it’s a good thing o but i understand why some people settle, and it takes the Grace of God for them to realize that the relationship isn’t good for them and extra Grace to actually leave the relationship, what i sha don’t understand is why people cheat, why don’t you kuku end the relationship since e no dey sweet you again😒😒😒.

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  6. Nobody should settle in a relationship but most times they don’t leave because of what they feel they benefit from the relationship.
    No plans here… I just want to view status and see money boxes so I can shout awww and God when 🤧

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