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Notes for my Woman

Dear woman,

You are beautiful, you are unique. Love your skin, love your hair, love your body, ‘cos there’s only one you.

Listen to your intuition about what is right for you. Take care of yourself because you matter. It is okay to be selfish sometimes.

You’re doing fine. You do not need to put the weight of the world on your shoulders. It is okay to rest.

Please, do not give up. You are capable of doing all that you’ve set out to do. You don’t know who you’re inspiring daily.

You do not need to beg anyone to love you and anyone that doesn’t recognize how special you are does not deserve you.

Do not hide, do not cower, do not be afraid. Do not allow anyone to to make you feel less than you are. Raise your head high and stand proud. You are exactly who you think you are.

You are going to accomplish great things and you will look back at the times when you thought you wouldn’t make it and appreciate your experiences and all that you’ve achieved.

Do not procrastinate and do not be lazy. Do the work and allow your work to speak for itself. Add value, always add value.

You don’t have to be perfect all the time and you do not have to conform to anyone’s standards. Just do you, and remember it is okay to not be okay.

Be open to learning. You can only get better so always grab opportunities to help you improve.

You need good friends. You cannot do life alone. You don’t need to be friends with the whole world and if you have two or three great people in your corner, do not let them go.

You are loved by God, your family, and your friends. Someone appreciates you every day. You are not alone.


Dear woman, I am rooting for you.

Love,

‘Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

Happy International Women’s Day! 🥳

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You Cannot Please the World.

Not everybody will like you and that’s okay. It is fine because how many people do you want to impress really? Thinking about it, what’s there to gain especially if you have to pretend, make yourself uncomfortable and unhappy?

It’s very easy to say “Not everyone will like you” but sometimes, we forget that trying to please people or being concerned about what they think is part of being human. We care about what people think and we often want family, friends, and even strangers to like us. It’s how we’re wired. However, the honest reality is that not everyone will like the way you dress, how you think, and even you as a person. Sometimes, it’s because they don’t know you, and other times, it’s just because nothing you do will ever seem right in their eyes and as I said, it’s okay.

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Have you observed that it can be exhausting when you have to think about what each person will like? You want to please A and at the same time, you’re worried about pleasing B and you put so much effort into what they would like. Sometimes, you don’t even realize that you’re doing it. There was a point in my life where I cared so much about people liking me. I never wanted to get on their bad sides even when I wasn’t happy with whatever situation I was in. I wanted to be everyone’s friend and being everyone’s friend is not easy at all. I mean, people always have opinions on how you should live your life and it’s stressful, trying to fit in with their ideas on how your life should be. I learned that you cannot please everyone so I started filtering whatever opinions people had to give and listening to myself instead. It took a while but when I was finally able to rise above what everyone thought, it became easier.

you cannot please everyone

At first, it would seem like you’re on your own but at least you’re original. Most people often have to sacrifice the true versions of themselves because they want to please a group of people. You’ll find that the version of themselves being presented to the outside world is fake because they often suppress a lot of their opinions and emotions because they want to fit in. In the end, a person may not show the stuff he/she is made of because he/she is too busy letting people decide who he/she gets to be.

Most people often have to sacrifice the true versions of themselves because they want to please a group of people.

Sometimes, we find out that we’ve outgrown certain circles and that’s fine too. This is because, in growth, we learn that some people don’t fit in with what we believe in or that with them, there’s no common goal. Some people realize this and leave such circles but others stay because they’re scared of what people will say. They don’t leave their comfort zone and most times, they don’t fulfil potential because they care about what people will say.

Sometimes, we find out that we’ve outgrown certain circles and that’s fine.

It’s heartbreaking when people don’t get to try something new or develop their ideas because they feel that people will not like it. Why don’t you take the risk and find other people who have the same mind as you and will resonate with whatever it is that’s going on in your head? Some people will say “when you’re in Rome, act like the Romans” but for how long? You’re not Roman.

Truth is that no matter what you do and no matter how hard you try, you will not be liked by everyone because there are people who won’t like you for no just reason and you’ll just be wasting precious time, trying to please them. I mean, you don’t even like everyone so why should you go through all the stress of trying to make the whole world happy? Just do you and make you happy okay?

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️.

How are you doing? Don’t air me please.

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt you had to please people?

What’s one thing about you that nobody will ever change?

Have you ever left a circle or group of friends because you realized that they were holding you back?

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