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Two Things I Despise.

Hello everyone! How are you doing? If you’re good then I’m good. The spirit of procrastination was about to descend on me but I declared that anything that will make me not publish today, God forbid.

I’ve been using this picture everywhere.

Permit me to show off my friend, Favour Didia. She’s beautiful and she’s my muse for this blog post because I don’t know how else to say thank you to her for coming through for me last week when I needed help. Thank you boo! I love you!!

Sometime last year, I was walking home and I happened to hear two very loud girls discussing. The one that was talking at that moment said something like “she no even fine better fine”. Apparently, they were gossiping about someone else and they were basically tearing the babe down. I continued walking but I couldn’t get that sentence out of my head and from that day till today, I’ve come across different people who have insulted other people’s appearances in one way or another, and like my friend said, it’s just their insecurities speaking.

I’m not even going to mince words. This happens a lot among women. How will a woman just sit comfortably in her space and start bad-mouthing or body shaming another woman without feeling anything? Or how will you just drop a degrading comment on someone’s appearance? Are you God? Honestly, it’s appalling and disgusting. I mean, what happened to women supporting women or whatever that stuff is called? Basically, it’s like there’s this competition between females. My question is why? Like, each of us are beautiful in our own way whether we like it or not and running other people down is just wrong and not sensible in my opinion.

If guys thought that they were going to be left out of this, they’re wrong. I happen to know some guys who take pride in joking about people’s appearances. I remember when a guy said that a girl looked like opera mini free mode. I clutched my chest because what is wrong with people? It was funny but imagine if the person was present and the person couldn’t take the joke, just imagine. What about those guys that slam other guy’s girlfriends? What’s there to gain?

It is one thing to point out to a person that his/ her appearance is not really appealing because you genuinely want to see the person look good and it is another thing entirely to point it out to make the person feel bad. Most of these degrading comments made about people are often done in their absence and it’s annoying because most of these people that make these comments will not be able to say it to the person’s face. So why say it at all? I think the most annoying has to be the comments people make about people they don’t even know. How will you just chill and call someone ugly? What is wrong with some people?

What about people that were born the way they are? I mean, there are people that genuinely do not like their appearances and it’s a struggle for them and you just saying things like “see how big your nose is” or “you’re really overweighted” and whatever does not really help matters. Do you think the person does not know? Instead of making them feel good, you trigger those insecurities and the annoying thing is that you do not know what they go through!! This is one of the causes of overthinking and depression. This is what makes people try to change their appearances and become suicidal.

Body shaming and bad-mouthing did not start today but I feel that we can do better and I cannot stress it enough. If you are someone that makes derogatory comments or jokes about people’s appearances, it’s time to stop. If you are someone that feels you’re in competition with everyone around you, I am here to remind you that nobody has your time. Each of us are beautiful in our own way and it’s time we started embracing that beauty and helping others embrace it too.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

Let’s try to raise people up instead of bringing them down. If you’re reading this, I don’t expect that you’re anything less than 15 years old. It’s never too early or too late to drop a habit. You’re grown so act like it.

Avoid negativity.

Meanwhile,

How are you really? Who else is tired of staying at home?

What are your thoughts about body shaming and bad-mouthing?

Do you think there’s a perfect way to treat people like these? ‘Cos I ignore them most of the time but a lesson or two won’t hurt, right?

Please put your thoughts in the comment section so we can discuss it. You know how much I love hearing from you!

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NO EXCUSE!

A moment of silence for George Floyd.

A moment of silence for Uwa Omozuwa.

This past week has been something else. What is happening in the world for God’s sake? The funny thing about all of these is that these people are the ones that we happen to know about. What about others that we’ll never know?

I usually don’t address sensitive issues like these because they are just that – sensitive. But how long will we continue to sit back and be witnesses? I mean, these are the lives of people like you and me. But the other question is what should we do? What can we do? Or should God just come and take His people home? Because I’m tired and sick of the negativity in this world. In fact, I’m tired of being tired.

Mr. George Floyd was killed for allegedly presenting a forged cheque to a cashier who called the cops on him. He was begging. He kept saying ”I can’t breathe”. There was a white cop restraining him with his knee on his neck. That white knee killed George Floyd. Of course, everything happened because they ”suspected” that he was trying to be fraudulent. The cheque wasn’t even fake. The only mistake he made was that he was black. Racism in 2020? Really?

Uwa. Uwa was 22. She just gained admission into the University of Benin but she’s gone now. She was raped and brutalized in a church. A church!! Women are not safe anymore. Is this how we’re going to keep living in fear? It’s scary, to be honest. What excuse is there for rape?

These days, people can’t even come out to protest against these wrongdoings because there is no more justice. Tina was just an innocent bystander cut down in her prime from a stray bullet. Bullet from the gun of a policeman that was supposed to be protecting this innocent soul. She was 16. She didn’t deserve to die. Will she get justice?

A moment of silence for Tina Ezekwe.

Honestly, my heart cannot take anymore and all I want is for justice to be served. Will Uwa get Justice? What about Floyd? What can we do? What can we do?? We deserve better! The world deserves better. What can we do?!

’Ruona.

WHAT CAN WE DO?!

I’ll be seeing you in the comment section.