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Impromptu interview? Let’s crush it.

Hey dear, it’s been a minute. I’m not beginning to have consistency issues I promise. It’s time management issues (which is probably way worse but I’m working on it).

Rant coming up in 3, 2, 1…

ADULTING IS HARD!!! Why didn’t anyone tell me? How do working parents make it look so easy? I mean, it’s one thing to start working and start earning but when it comes to finding time to doing other things, it’s an entire ball game!

My life right now is like that Rihanna song… ”work, work, work, work” then I don’t understand the rest.

Word Porn

You’re probably wondering why I’m talking about adult stuff. Let’s just say that these past few weeks have actually opened my eyes to the fact that I’m not really a child anymore, considering the fact that I had just about 3 months left till graduation before the pandemic struck.

Many of us have put school stuff aside and have found other things to occupy us or bring us income and some of us are already planning the next step after graduation. Some of us have already started writing our curriculum vitae. This brings us to my random thought that I feel I should share with you today.

What do you do when faced with an impromptu interview? We might as well discuss this – particularly for those of us leaving varsity into the labour market. Let’s say, you’re notified that there’s a job opening and you’re informed the night before the interview, what do you do?

1. PRAY: If you’re a believer, you should commit whatever interview you’re going for into the hands of God and ask Him to take control. Talking to God strengthens your faith, surrounds you with positive vibes, and casts out fear.

2. IF THERE’S RESEARCH TO BE DONE, DO IT: You might want to know about the company that’s considering you for the interview or the person you might work for and most importantly, the venue of your interview. You might also have to read concerning likely questions that you might have or be asked. Trust me, you don’t want to go blind into an interview.

3. DRESSING: The saying ”dress the way you want to be addressed” cannot be overemphasized. If you don’t put effort into your dressing and you’re not taken seriously, please don’t feel bad. What most people notice first about you is how you’re dressed. An interview is often a formal event so dress accordingly and even if it’s an informal event, please do not be underdressed.

4. CARRIAGE: If you carry yourself as a child, you’ll be treated like a child and there are no two ways about it. I’m not saying you should reek of overconfidence and ’I too know’ but there should be an aura about your carriage that will command respect from every part of the room.

5. HAVE SOMETHING TO SHOW: Never arrive empty for an interview, impromptu or not. Always have a portfolio, your CV, or something that will show whoever that’s interviewing you that you have what he/she is looking for.

Now speaking from experience, I’d like to tell you that wherever you find yourself, interview or not, always be sure of yourself. Be sure of who you are and be sure of what you want. Try to fight off intimidation as best as possible and always stand your ground with confidence. Do not fidget and be audible. Even if you’re unsure of something, do not allow the other party to smell your nervousness. Always carry yourself as someone in high demand all the time.

Love,

’Ruona. ❤️

P.S: I’d like to say thank you for always encouraging me to keep writing. This blog got me my first real job last week and I’m not even sure I’ve recovered from the shock ’cos I wasn’t even expecting it. My interviewer (now boss) asked to see stuff that I had written and I gave him the link to this blog then I sat down patiently and waited for him to scrutinize my written work. A lot of things were going through my head because this was my first real interview. When he was done, he asked me to write something for him and I wrote this:

You know the rest of the story.

So thank you again ’cos without you, there’s no Ruonaahsculture.

Meanwhile, How have you been, really?

What have you been doing to keep yourself occupied during this period?

What other interview tips do you know? Advice someone today!

What do you think of my interview ’test’? Did I nail it?

You know it gives me so much joy when I see you in the comment section. Please, drop a comment and make me happy.

Posted in motivation, Personal

You Don’t Need Anyone’s Approval to Feel Better About Yourself.

I should probably tell you about this one time I dressed up. Like, really dressed up because of a guy. I remember doing my makeup and what was on my mind was how surprised he’d be to see me and how I would take his breath away. I was positive that he will not be looking at anyone else but me. I wanted to look mature and I wanted to be the centre of attraction so I allowed my friend to plaster heavy colours on my face in the name of makeup. (I should have a picture somewhere but I’m not about to embarrass the people I care about).

The endpoint of this story is that he invited another girl over who had lighter makeup on and she spent the whole day with him. I was just there, looking at them, feeling uncomfortable with my face, and totally annoyed.

Currently playing:

Sam Smith and Burnaboy actually made magic.

Where was I? Okay, there’s this confidence that makeup gives a person especially when it’s really good. Its art and art should be appreciated. But the issue here was that I didn’t wear makeup for myself on that day. As a matter of fact, I didn’t even appreciate myself at that point and all that mattered was this guy’s approval. When he didn’t even acknowledge it, my level of confidence automatically reduced. Lol. Just imagine going through the stress of sitting in one place for close to an hour and applying makeup for a boy and he doesn’t even appreciate it. Sigh. I was young and inexperienced, forgive me. I was expecting a compliment from him but he probably thought I was a joke. I can’t even blame him. I was painted like a clown. I didn’t even take his breath away…

You may have made or you’re still making the same mistake I made that time, doing stuff to impress people, to get their approval, or to fit in. Don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing wrong with dressing to impress. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to boost your confidence level. The mistake you’d make is if you do them for the wrong reasons.

Whatever you do, ensure that you do it for yourself. People and their opinions matter but you matter more. Don’t lose your self worth because you’re trying to impress someone else.

Found this on Twitter.

The plain truth is that if you don’t appreciate yourself first, nobody will appreciate you. If you look down on yourself, people will look down on you. If you cannot find happiness within yourself, how do you expect to find it in other people?

You should ask yourself specific questions sometimes. Questions like “what exactly am I doing this for?”, “am I happy with this decision?”, “am I doing this for myself or for someone else?” “am I comfortable in my own skin?” And mind you, these questions aren’t limited to dressing alone because there are decisions we make on certain issues in life based on the need to get approval from people, some of them being people that we should not even bother about.

If I had just taken time to actually appreciate myself, I’m very sure I’d have gone out with my bare face and I would have had fun without having second thoughts. Also, if I had decided that I was beautiful with my makeup on, I wouldn’t have cared about his approval and I definitely would not have needed his compliments to make me feel good about myself. It’s history now and I know that I can’t make that same mistake again because I’m totally comfortable in my skin.

Insecurities come at times but I manage them by reminding myself that there’s no one like me. You can do the same too because you’re unique and you do not need anyone’s approval to feel better about yourself. Also, if you feel like there’s a change you have to make, a change that will benefit you, please go for it. Don’t discourage yourself with “what ifs”. As they say, the world will adjust.

We’re done with random thoughts for today. Thanks for stopping by.

Love,

Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

HAPPY NEW MONTH!! 💜🥳

I’ve been MIA and I’m sorry. My life outside the blog caught up with me.

How are you really? What have you been up to these past 2 weeks?

Have you had a similar experience to the one I just shared?

Do you agree with what I’ve said?

What part of this post got to you?

Please let me know in the comment box below. You know how much I love hearing from you. 💜💜💜