Posted in Random

365/366

The past 300 days were a lot and honestly, to be present in this world after everything that happened is a gift in itself because, despite all odds, we made it this far 🥺.

I want to say thank you. Thank you for sticking with this blog, thank you for clicking on my links, dropping your thoughts, and sharing my work even when you didn’t have to. You encourage me to do this thing I love doing and it means so much to me. Thank you for being a part of my year.

When I started writing this, I didn’t know the direction this post will go but all I could feel was how grateful I was and I legit struggled with words to express how I was feeling so I decided to just flow with it because why not?

There’s no need to recount the things that happened this year because, for some, it was more of losses than gains. I won in some areas but I lost too and there’s no way I’ll ever forget this year because this has been the most trying year for me emotionally, spiritually and even physically but despite everything, I am grateful.

2020 taught me a lot but one major thing I learned this year is that life can play you anytime. Do you think you have it figured out? You’re wrong. If you don’t believe in God and yourself, there’s every possibility that things can come crashing down. If you’re not intentional about what you do and why you’re doing it, you might just end up losing your way.

Life can play you anytime.

In all honesty, nothing is guaranteed. What if you lose a job or the love of your life says he/she doesn’t want to be with you anymore or someone dies? I mean, nobody plans for any of these circumstances and this year didn’t prepare us for any of these but you see, they happened and we’ve been dealing with them in one way or another and while it’s okay to feel bad for some time, how long is enough? What do we do to move on especially as 2021 is coming?

Don’t get me wrong. I know that entering a new year doesn’t automatically take the pain of these past 365 days away but learning what I’ve learned this year, I’ve realized that we need to make sure our lives have meaning at all times. Do not put off making yourself happy and do not forget to live for yourself instead of living for others. Yes, you’re allowed to be selfish sometimes because you matter. Be kind, selfless, and be many shades of positive because we don’t know what tomorrow may bring.

One other thing… In a world such as this, there’s no need for you to downplay other people’s happiness and excitement. Allow other people to breathe and do not make them feel guilty for being happy. Do not be a sadist for no reason. How long should people wallow in pain, please? It would do a lot of good if you quit making people feel terrible and you quit reminding them of their pain and problems especially if you have no solution. Just let love lead because it is hard enough as it is.

I’ve chosen to start 2021 with hope and I’ve decided to take one day at a time. It may not be easy but I’m determined to drown my pessimism in my optimism. I’m going to fight for those I love and the things I believe in. I don’t want to be scared anymore. I’m going to make this next year work for me by God’s grace and I hope it will be better, I hope it gets better.

Thank you again for all you do. See you next year.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

How are you doing?

Describe 2020 in one word

Let’s take a minute to hail Mr & Mrs. Scissors that have started cutting people off 😏

What are your plans for 2021?

Happy New Year in advance.

Please share your thoughts in my comment box. You know I love hearing from you! 💜

Posted in motivation, Personal

You Don’t Need Anyone’s Approval to Feel Better About Yourself.

I should probably tell you about this one time I dressed up. Like, really dressed up because of a guy. I remember doing my makeup and what was on my mind was how surprised he’d be to see me and how I would take his breath away. I was positive that he will not be looking at anyone else but me. I wanted to look mature and I wanted to be the centre of attraction so I allowed my friend to plaster heavy colours on my face in the name of makeup. (I should have a picture somewhere but I’m not about to embarrass the people I care about).

The endpoint of this story is that he invited another girl over who had lighter makeup on and she spent the whole day with him. I was just there, looking at them, feeling uncomfortable with my face, and totally annoyed.

Currently playing:

Sam Smith and Burnaboy actually made magic.

Where was I? Okay, there’s this confidence that makeup gives a person especially when it’s really good. Its art and art should be appreciated. But the issue here was that I didn’t wear makeup for myself on that day. As a matter of fact, I didn’t even appreciate myself at that point and all that mattered was this guy’s approval. When he didn’t even acknowledge it, my level of confidence automatically reduced. Lol. Just imagine going through the stress of sitting in one place for close to an hour and applying makeup for a boy and he doesn’t even appreciate it. Sigh. I was young and inexperienced, forgive me. I was expecting a compliment from him but he probably thought I was a joke. I can’t even blame him. I was painted like a clown. I didn’t even take his breath away…

You may have made or you’re still making the same mistake I made that time, doing stuff to impress people, to get their approval, or to fit in. Don’t get me wrong – there’s nothing wrong with dressing to impress. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to boost your confidence level. The mistake you’d make is if you do them for the wrong reasons.

Whatever you do, ensure that you do it for yourself. People and their opinions matter but you matter more. Don’t lose your self worth because you’re trying to impress someone else.

Found this on Twitter.

The plain truth is that if you don’t appreciate yourself first, nobody will appreciate you. If you look down on yourself, people will look down on you. If you cannot find happiness within yourself, how do you expect to find it in other people?

You should ask yourself specific questions sometimes. Questions like “what exactly am I doing this for?”, “am I happy with this decision?”, “am I doing this for myself or for someone else?” “am I comfortable in my own skin?” And mind you, these questions aren’t limited to dressing alone because there are decisions we make on certain issues in life based on the need to get approval from people, some of them being people that we should not even bother about.

If I had just taken time to actually appreciate myself, I’m very sure I’d have gone out with my bare face and I would have had fun without having second thoughts. Also, if I had decided that I was beautiful with my makeup on, I wouldn’t have cared about his approval and I definitely would not have needed his compliments to make me feel good about myself. It’s history now and I know that I can’t make that same mistake again because I’m totally comfortable in my skin.

Insecurities come at times but I manage them by reminding myself that there’s no one like me. You can do the same too because you’re unique and you do not need anyone’s approval to feel better about yourself. Also, if you feel like there’s a change you have to make, a change that will benefit you, please go for it. Don’t discourage yourself with “what ifs”. As they say, the world will adjust.

We’re done with random thoughts for today. Thanks for stopping by.

Love,

Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

HAPPY NEW MONTH!! 💜🥳

I’ve been MIA and I’m sorry. My life outside the blog caught up with me.

How are you really? What have you been up to these past 2 weeks?

Have you had a similar experience to the one I just shared?

Do you agree with what I’ve said?

What part of this post got to you?

Please let me know in the comment box below. You know how much I love hearing from you. 💜💜💜