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You Cannot Please the World.

Not everybody will like you and that’s okay. It is fine because how many people do you want to impress really? Thinking about it, what’s there to gain especially if you have to pretend, make yourself uncomfortable and unhappy?

It’s very easy to say “Not everyone will like you” but sometimes, we forget that trying to please people or being concerned about what they think is part of being human. We care about what people think and we often want family, friends, and even strangers to like us. It’s how we’re wired. However, the honest reality is that not everyone will like the way you dress, how you think, and even you as a person. Sometimes, it’s because they don’t know you, and other times, it’s just because nothing you do will ever seem right in their eyes and as I said, it’s okay.

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Have you observed that it can be exhausting when you have to think about what each person will like? You want to please A and at the same time, you’re worried about pleasing B and you put so much effort into what they would like. Sometimes, you don’t even realize that you’re doing it. There was a point in my life where I cared so much about people liking me. I never wanted to get on their bad sides even when I wasn’t happy with whatever situation I was in. I wanted to be everyone’s friend and being everyone’s friend is not easy at all. I mean, people always have opinions on how you should live your life and it’s stressful, trying to fit in with their ideas on how your life should be. I learned that you cannot please everyone so I started filtering whatever opinions people had to give and listening to myself instead. It took a while but when I was finally able to rise above what everyone thought, it became easier.

you cannot please everyone

At first, it would seem like you’re on your own but at least you’re original. Most people often have to sacrifice the true versions of themselves because they want to please a group of people. You’ll find that the version of themselves being presented to the outside world is fake because they often suppress a lot of their opinions and emotions because they want to fit in. In the end, a person may not show the stuff he/she is made of because he/she is too busy letting people decide who he/she gets to be.

Most people often have to sacrifice the true versions of themselves because they want to please a group of people.

Sometimes, we find out that we’ve outgrown certain circles and that’s fine too. This is because, in growth, we learn that some people don’t fit in with what we believe in or that with them, there’s no common goal. Some people realize this and leave such circles but others stay because they’re scared of what people will say. They don’t leave their comfort zone and most times, they don’t fulfil potential because they care about what people will say.

Sometimes, we find out that we’ve outgrown certain circles and that’s fine.

It’s heartbreaking when people don’t get to try something new or develop their ideas because they feel that people will not like it. Why don’t you take the risk and find other people who have the same mind as you and will resonate with whatever it is that’s going on in your head? Some people will say “when you’re in Rome, act like the Romans” but for how long? You’re not Roman.

Truth is that no matter what you do and no matter how hard you try, you will not be liked by everyone because there are people who won’t like you for no just reason and you’ll just be wasting precious time, trying to please them. I mean, you don’t even like everyone so why should you go through all the stress of trying to make the whole world happy? Just do you and make you happy okay?

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️.

How are you doing? Don’t air me please.

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt you had to please people?

What’s one thing about you that nobody will ever change?

Have you ever left a circle or group of friends because you realized that they were holding you back?

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Book Review: Me Before You.

Last Friday, I asked people on my Instagram story what they’d like to read on my blog and about four of them said they’d like to read book reviews and summaries and I’ll be reviewing “Me Before You”, a book by Jojo Moyes published in 2012. It was adapted to a movie in 2016. How cool is that?

Um… I have a confession to make – I’ve never done this before, I’m a virgin to book reviews and I’m shy lol. There’s a reason for this tho’. Reading has always been a means of escape from reality because, with these books, I develop my vocabulary and I’m free to allow my imaginations to run wild. Also, reading books is something I do because I want to and not because I’m being told to do so. I think that’s what takes the fun out of school books. We read them because we have to and not necessarily because we want to. I read random genres which often include romance, thrillers, mystery, and the usual teen fiction.

In a way, I feel like writing a book review means that I have to explain what I’ve read to you and it’s low-key like an exam because I’d just give you a link to where I downloaded the books instead of explaining but what kind of person would I be if I didn’t give you what you asked for?

Let’s get to it, shall we?

ME BEFORE YOU

“Me Before You”, published in 2012 by Jojo Moyes is a novel about two characters who under normal circumstances would not have met but Louisa Clark, a simple but quirky woman who has just lost her job and is looking for another finds herself as a caregiver in the home of Will Traynor, a quadriplegic who gives the first impression as rude and utterly cynical.

However, both of them slowly find a balance and develop a friendship. Will encourages Louisa to come out of her bubble and try new things. Louisa, although hesitant begins to learn about new stuff and lets loose a little and this puts a smile on Will’s face.

In the course of her caregiving, she finds out that Will has plans of his own – he has decided that his suffering is too much and this is not the life he wants to live, especially since he was adventurous by nature, someone who had previously climbed mountains, skydived and traveled the world for fun. Will cannot reconcile his present life with his previous one as he’s stuck in a wheelchair and has to depend on people to do things for him all the time.

When Louisa finds out that he plans to take his life through assisted suicide at a set date, she does all she can to ensure that she changes his mind. She puts effort into planning different activities to show Will that he can be paralyzed and still have a life worth living. She tries to give him some of her happiness but her efforts may not be enough to change his mind.

I saw the movie before I read the book (Me Before You was adapted into a movie in 2016) and I loved every bit of it. This book is not your typical romance novel but to a great extent, it teaches you to appreciate life in every form because there are people who do not have the choice that most of us have. Also, Jojo Moyes shows us that we don’t have to settle because there’s a whole world in front of us. Also, that mediocrity never conquers much.

Jojo Moyes portrays the characters in Me Before You in a way that you can relate to them on many levels and although the novel is mostly written in Louisa’s POV, she adds points of view from other characters to give clarity. She also portrays the wars of quadriplegia, as well as the psychological toll it takes on its victims, straightforwardly. She doesn’t represent life the way we want it to be, but she portrays it as it is – with harsh realities.

This book may cause controversy in the sense that some people do not believe that suicide is acceptable, no matter what. Also, it might seem that all hope is lost to people who are in the same situation as Will. I mean, imagine a quadriplegic having to go through the various emotions caused by “Me Before You”. It will probably depress his/her depression.

However, it was realistic and I cried. A lot. But it was a great read and I’ll probably read it again, seeing as I’ve seen the movie at least three times since 2016.

The book has sequels:

AFTER YOU
STILL ME

I downloaded “Me Before You” from this site. You should read it if you liked this review.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️.

P.S:

How are you doing?

What did you think of my first attempt at reviewing a book?

Have you read “Me Before You” or seen the movie?

Do you think you’d like to read the book?

Please let me know in the comment section. Your responses give me joy! 💜