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Remember Me?

7 months. 7 months is a long time to go without publishing. How could I have stayed away for so long? Circumstances. Circumstances beyond my control. I wasn’t even gone for this long when my phone was stolen in 2017 before I published “Phone-Napped”.

I feel like I have to re-introduce myself and this space again so hi, I’m ‘Ruona. I love sharing my thoughts with you here on Ruonaahsculture. You’d find everything from my personal stories to why I think we should sell Nigeria on eBay – I know, I have weird thoughts sometimes.

‘Ruona until I change my name or something.

If you’re new here, welcome to my little corner of the Internet. This place is filled with positive vibes only. If you’re a regular reader of my blog and have been wondering where I’ve been, I’m back now, and I’ve missed sharing my thoughts with you. I was heartbroken at not being able to post for such a long time, but I had so many other things to attend to. I’m back, and I won’t leave you hanging, I promise.

A lot has happened and I’ll tell you about them in future posts, but here are some highlights:

  • I now live in Gombe State because the Federal Government of Nigeria felt that I should explore the North. Me that wanted to go to Lagos to chill with the big boys? Lol.
  • I’ve begun to find myself doing adult things like paying bills and planning. Nobody told me that it was this hard. God has been faithful.
  • I lost my Granny, the only Grandparent I ever knew. It still feels so unreal.
  • If you’re looking for someone to award “Best in traveling”, look no further except you know someone that has spent more than two days on the road.
  • I hosted my very first writing challenge on Instagram and it was a success.
  • I’ve made mistakes and learned lessons. I’m beginning to see life for what it really is.
  • I’ve met nice people and made friends. I don’t take them for granted.

Let’s just say that life happened and I’m not the same person I was 7 months ago. I hope you’re ready for Ruonaahsculture ‘cos she’s not going anywhere.

No seriously, are you ready?

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Love,

‘Ruona. ❤️

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Posted in Random, Relationship

SINGLE SCRUTINY

Single Scrutiny | /ˈsɪŋɡ(ə)l/ /ˈskruːtɪni/ – An annoying critical observation and/or analysis of someone’s single status as if you’re being paid to drop comments or give advice on why the person is single. It’s not your business. Go away.

You’ve probably heard people make statements like “you’re too pretty to be single”, “a fine guy like you shouldn’t be alone”, and “you’ve secured the bag. What’s left is for you to secure a partner”.

You might have also heard this very nice question too – “You’re so beautiful/handsome/talented. How are you still single?”

When you hear people say stuff like these, they sound like compliments but in case you didn’t know, not every single person on the receiving end might see it that way.

I know you’ve made comments like this too. Don’t even lie.

Has it ever occurred to you that some of these people don’t want to hear your pity comments? Have you ever sat back to think that they don’t want to be reminded that nobody is doing couple goals with them? Have you?

Have you even thought that maybe, just maybe being single is a choice for these people and they’re not as miserable as you think they are? Not everyone is in a relationship and I know that nobody ever died from being single.

Being in a relationship is awesome but some people make this whole “being single” thing such a big deal. That’s why you find that some of them jump from relationships to relationships because of pressure or because they’re scared to be alone. That’s not the point tho’. Let’s not deviate.

My issue is with the people who practice single scrutiny. The ones who feel that they should be allowed to play judge and jury over another person’s relationship status. Who sent you? I know the person is your friend and you care but if you keep quiet, nothing will happen to you. It’s because of you the “na single I single, I no kill person” sentence was coined. That’s how you pressured your friend to enter another bad relationship because you won’t keep quiet and you made it seem like being in a relationship is some sort of achievement.

You should be sorry.

Stop. Just stop scrutinizing people’s lives and relationships. Please allow single Pringles to breathe because there’s no crime or shame in being single. Being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. As a matter of fact, people can be single for the following reasons:

  • They’re chilling, just waiting for the right person to love and appreciate them.
  • They would rather be alone than be with the wrong person.
  • They don’t like stress.
  • They can’t afford the kind of relationship they want right now.
  • They’re focused on their future.
  • They haven’t given in to peer pressure and they don’t need to impress anyone.
  • They really don’t send anybody.
  • They love their personal space.
  • Not everyone can do the “love thing” (or they don’t wanna try) LOL.
  • Being single is not a crime.

So you get?

To the single Pringles that have been heavily scrutinized, don’t mind them.

I can’t believe they told you that if you continue like this, you won’t find your husband/wife. They actually think they have a say. I laugh in toxic relationships. Don’t pay any attention to them. You’re doing great, honey. I know you want to cuddle too but in good time.

How do you deal with people who scrutinize your single status?

  • Honestly, deck them if you can.
  • Remember that you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
  • Be unapologetic.
  • Do not wallow in self pity.
  • Do not rush into anything. There’s nothing wrong with resting your heart till it’s ready to love again.
  • Ignore the judge and jury, focus on you and make you happy.

Wait, wait. Some singles also scrutinize their relationship status.

I’m not going to say much except YOU’RE NOT GOING TO DIE IF YOU’RE NOT DATING SOMEONE! Stop putting so much pressure on yourself to be in a relationship. Take time to breathe, appreciate yourself and work on yourself. Your desperation won’t get you that relationship you want, trust me.

Please, stop single scrutiny. A person’s relationship status doesn’t define him/her.

Dear singles, be unapologetic about everything. Your person is going to come and it’s going to be beautiful.

Okay, that’s it. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk (drops mic).

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

Why do you think some people always have stuff to say about people’s single status?

Have you been scrutinized before?

Do you scrutinize people’s relationship status? Dont lie.

Why do you think people stay single?

Why do you think single Pringles should not be bothered?

Please make your comments in the comment box below. You know how much I love reading from you! 💜