Posted in motivation, Personal

I know how you feel.

I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been there too. You don’t believe me? Okay, read.

You’ve probably seen that quote where Billie Eilish once said that she ruined a lot of good things by being sad and you probably felt it like I did. I know that most people know you to be this cheerful extrovert or maybe, just maybe you’re quiet and you always seem so put together but what if it’s just a front and you know it? What if you just know how to mask your feelings because you don’t want to rub off on people negatively?

You have your bad days, those days when all you want to do is shut everyone out because you feel miserable or sad for one reason or another. People around you never believe that you’re depressed because they feel that it’s just not possible or maybe they just feel like you’re seeking attention. What they don’t know is that depression affects even the best of us. How else do you explain going from very happy to extremely sad in the space of one hour? Or how do you explain that your mind is always constructing different scenes to make you miserable?

I know that sometimes, you don’t even understand what’s going on with you. I know that people come to you and they’re like ”a problem shared is a problem half solved” but what if you don’t know what the problem is? What if you just want people to let you be?

I totally understand what you’re going through and you’re not alone. If you’re hoping for a solution, I don’t have one but I can share some stuff to help you anytime you feel down.

  • Talk to God about how you’re feeling. If you’re a believer, you know how much this helps because the Holy Spirit is always there to listen to you and help you feel better.
  • Do something you love to do. It makes you feel better. Anytime I feel down, I write. My journal has felt my pain more than anyone. Sometimes, the motivation to do what you love may not be there and that’s fine.
  • Try to think happy thoughts. If you want to stop thinking about negative stuff, you have to counter it with positivity. I’m not about to pretend that it’s a piece of cake but the keyword is ’try’.
  • Sleep is a form of escape but it doesn’t solve anything. When you wake up, it’s like starting again. Sad.
  • It is a passing phase. You have to believe that it will pass and it will be sunny again.
  • If you have to cry, cry. Sometimes, if you’re overwhelmed, crying is an outlet. Honestly, it’s better than keeping so many emotions bottled in.
  • Self-harm or suicide will never be a solution. Anytime you feel depressed, remember that there’s so much good in the world and you can be part of it. Always remember that someone loves you too.
  • Do not stop trying. Things may not be so good right now but you have to believe that it’ll only get better.

You may doubt it right now but the truth of the matter is that you’re stronger than you think and you’re going to overcome whatever it is you’re going through. Your sunny days are near and you just have to will yourself to believe it and you’ll be fine.

I’m rooting for you.

Love,

’Ruona ❤️

P.S:

I couldn’t publish last week and I’m so sorry.

Can you relate?

What do you do when you find yourself in depressing situations? What’s your coping mechanism?

Please leave something positive in the comment section to encourage someone. You don’t know who might need it. I can’t wait to read them.

Posted in Random

Two Things I Despise.

Hello everyone! How are you doing? If you’re good then I’m good. The spirit of procrastination was about to descend on me but I declared that anything that will make me not publish today, God forbid.

I’ve been using this picture everywhere.

Permit me to show off my friend, Favour Didia. She’s beautiful and she’s my muse for this blog post because I don’t know how else to say thank you to her for coming through for me last week when I needed help. Thank you boo! I love you!!

Sometime last year, I was walking home and I happened to hear two very loud girls discussing. The one that was talking at that moment said something like “she no even fine better fine”. Apparently, they were gossiping about someone else and they were basically tearing the babe down. I continued walking but I couldn’t get that sentence out of my head and from that day till today, I’ve come across different people who have insulted other people’s appearances in one way or another, and like my friend said, it’s just their insecurities speaking.

I’m not even going to mince words. This happens a lot among women. How will a woman just sit comfortably in her space and start bad-mouthing or body shaming another woman without feeling anything? Or how will you just drop a degrading comment on someone’s appearance? Are you God? Honestly, it’s appalling and disgusting. I mean, what happened to women supporting women or whatever that stuff is called? Basically, it’s like there’s this competition between females. My question is why? Like, each of us are beautiful in our own way whether we like it or not and running other people down is just wrong and not sensible in my opinion.

If guys thought that they were going to be left out of this, they’re wrong. I happen to know some guys who take pride in joking about people’s appearances. I remember when a guy said that a girl looked like opera mini free mode. I clutched my chest because what is wrong with people? It was funny but imagine if the person was present and the person couldn’t take the joke, just imagine. What about those guys that slam other guy’s girlfriends? What’s there to gain?

It is one thing to point out to a person that his/ her appearance is not really appealing because you genuinely want to see the person look good and it is another thing entirely to point it out to make the person feel bad. Most of these degrading comments made about people are often done in their absence and it’s annoying because most of these people that make these comments will not be able to say it to the person’s face. So why say it at all? I think the most annoying has to be the comments people make about people they don’t even know. How will you just chill and call someone ugly? What is wrong with some people?

What about people that were born the way they are? I mean, there are people that genuinely do not like their appearances and it’s a struggle for them and you just saying things like “see how big your nose is” or “you’re really overweighted” and whatever does not really help matters. Do you think the person does not know? Instead of making them feel good, you trigger those insecurities and the annoying thing is that you do not know what they go through!! This is one of the causes of overthinking and depression. This is what makes people try to change their appearances and become suicidal.

Body shaming and bad-mouthing did not start today but I feel that we can do better and I cannot stress it enough. If you are someone that makes derogatory comments or jokes about people’s appearances, it’s time to stop. If you are someone that feels you’re in competition with everyone around you, I am here to remind you that nobody has your time. Each of us are beautiful in our own way and it’s time we started embracing that beauty and helping others embrace it too.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

Let’s try to raise people up instead of bringing them down. If you’re reading this, I don’t expect that you’re anything less than 15 years old. It’s never too early or too late to drop a habit. You’re grown so act like it.

Avoid negativity.

Meanwhile,

How are you really? Who else is tired of staying at home?

What are your thoughts about body shaming and bad-mouthing?

Do you think there’s a perfect way to treat people like these? ‘Cos I ignore them most of the time but a lesson or two won’t hurt, right?

Please put your thoughts in the comment section so we can discuss it. You know how much I love hearing from you!