Posted in Personal, Random

CAN I STILL CALL MYSELF A STUDENT?

Hi there, welcome to random thoughts!

I’m going to tell you what has been going on in my mind for the past few days.

I have had to address issues such as:

  • The student in me has graduated
  • I cannot remember my project topic
  • I have moved on with my life

…and I do not know how to act. HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO ACT?!

Sigh. I’m calm. I’m not shouting.

I read in the news this past week that schools in Delta State are to resume from the 2nd of October. I don’t know how to feel about it, honestly. As a matter of fact, I haven’t been myself since I heard that news. I am 75% sure that I’ll be speaking the minds of some students who are in my shoes. The ones that may not agree with me have their reasons and I totally respect them.

Now, let’s count together dears.

March – What’s this pandemic? It will blow over.

April – No school stress. I can chill at home & eat good food.

May – Online classes? God, what is this?

June – God please have mercy on us, let schools reopen.

July – Gets angry, travels to school to eat Banga rice.

August – Lands a paying job

September!!!

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

After all this time, who should resume? Who? 😂😂😂

If I say I’m mentally prepared for resumption, I am lying. You know that there are certain situations whereby you’ve hoped and hoped for something and eventually given up hope, then that thing eventually comes and you’re no longer interested? That’s how I feel right now. Imagine if I heard this news before July, this website would not have been able to contain all of us. Now it’s just ”Oh. Okay”.

So, I haven’t touched my project in about three months and I was just exaggerating at the beginning. I still remember my project topic. If you believed what I said in the beginning, then you obviously don’t wish me well 😂😂. Anyways, I’m not enthusiastic about the whole idea of having to resume. I have a job that pays for crying out loud!! I have moved on! 😭😭

Why is this happening to me? 😭😭😭🤧🤧🤧


On the other hand, I CAN NOT WAIT TO SEE MY FRIENDS!!! Our reunion will be loud and I will make sure of it. But that’s by the way. I just want to resume, graduate, and get out.

So that’s that about that.

If you were expecting serious stuff today, I’m sorry but you’ll have to check back next time. Meanwhile, here are some of my previous posts if you missed them or you’d like to read something nice:

  • 3 Quick ways to De-stress.
    You should check out 3 Quick ways to De-stress in case you’ve been worrying too much or doing too much. You deserve to be stress-free.
  • LET’S MAKE MONEY!
    Are you tired of being broke and you’re looking for a way to make good money from your comfort zone? You might wanna check this out!
  • Are you tired?
    How are you doing today? I can’t exactly say how I’m feeling but I’m okay, I guess. This week is going to be awesome. Can I get an Amen? So, it’s been well over a […]

Love,

’Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

How are you doing, really?

STUDENTS OF DELTA STATE UNIVERSITY, HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT RESUMPTION? Who can’t wait to see me? 🤧

Can you relate to what I’ve written?

Are you on the same page as me?

Do you think that schools should have just chilled till next year before resumption?

If your school was asked to resume right now, how will you feel?

Spam me with your comments!!! You know how much I love hearing from you!

Posted in Personal

Familiarity Still Breeds Contempt

Give someone an inch and they take a mile? 

It still happens!!!

You’d think that as we grow older, people will begin to respect themselves around others but it’s obvious that the memo hasn’t gotten to everyone because if it has, then everyone and I mean EVERYONE should know that when it comes to people, there is a line that should not be crossed, no matter how close you are to them.

My family is very private. We’ve lived at our house for about 10 years and most of the people around us don’t even know our names. I’m very positive that some of them have written my brother and I off as rude people 😂 because we don’t have time for anyone but the truth of the matter is that we don’t have the energy for what people call ’see finish’.

In case you’re wondering what ’see finish’ is, it is a pidgin term that loosely translates to ‘to have seen it all’. It is a slang that is used to explain that someone has become too familiar with you to the extent that he/she begins to disrespect you. In other words, your ratings have dropped from maybe a 5 to a 2 or even 1 and a half.

’See finish’ easily describes the big grammar that’s my title (I should have just titled this blog post ’how to avoid see finish’ but the professoin me won’t allow it).

As I was saying, we don’t really talk to people around our area but I can be a very sociable person if I’m in the mood. ’Iya Kunle’ likes me because I’m always shouting ”Good morning Maaa” at the top of my lungs anytime I see her and then there’s Mr. John who never fails to greet me with a smile. There’s also this guy that works at the carwash close to my house whom I started talking to around last year. He’s the subject of the gist for today. 

I cannot remember exactly how we started talking but I know that a routine formed anytime I was going out or coming back. He always waved and said hi. Sometimes, I’d stop and we’d chat a little about random stuff (if you’ve noticed, I’m using past tense because all of that is history now) and it was cool because he seemed like a nice person.

One day out of the blues, Uncle asked for my phone number and I was like ”Why do you want my number? What will we talk about? I’m sorry, but I don’t think it’s necessary”. In my mind, I was like ”When did we even reach that level? Because of ordinary hi and what did you buy for me?”

He didn’t stop there. He kept on bugging me and I kept declining. Eventually, he stopped asking. Our usual greetings continued until I noticed that he was beginning to get too comfortable. He started catcalling and shouting my name to get my attention while making improper jokes. I was already getting pissed but I didn’t say anything about it. I continued normally until the day he did something that turned out to be the last straw.

So I was going to get fuel one day and this guy started shouting my name. It was evening and people were around. I would have answered but I was already tired of his behavior so I ignored him. The next thing I heard was ”This girl ehn, na wa for you” and he legit threw the chewed cob of corn in his hand in my path to get my attention and I missed a step and nearly fell. I was so angry and under normal circumstances, I would have turned to give him a piece of my mind. I even heard someone say ”wetin the girl do you na? Una be friends?”

I gathered myself and silently walked away without giving him the attention he badly wanted. On my way back, he shouted ”The thing wey I throw touch you? Sorry o”. In my mind, I was like, ”I really thought this one had sense. He actually thinks that what he did was funny”. I was so annoyed and I kept thinking that if I hadn’t started responding to his greetings in the first place, this would not have happened. I’ve stopped now and I’m pretty sure that he has gotten the message.

The point I’m trying to put across is that I put myself in a position where I became too familiar with this person. Some people may consider what happened to me as a small thing that can be ignored but being the kind of person that I am, there are some things that I don’t just take lightly and I don’t think you should too because it could have been something more. I mean, this is how it starts!

People should know their place but at the same time, do not put yourself in a position where people will disrespect you. A lot of people you think have pride are not really proud. It’s just self-respect. The way you carry yourself around people determines how they begin to see you. If they become too comfortable and feel that they know all there is to be known about you, you begin to lose value and they tend not to see you as the big deal that you are. This is why they say “na see finish dey turn ’Good morning’ to ’How far’.”

So basically, this is me reminding you that familiarity still breeds contempt. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be friends with people or anything. What I’m saying is that there’s a line that shouldn’t be crossed. Don’t allow people to disrespect you in the name of friendship. Don’t be too tolerant. Have standards! If your friends really care, they’ll respect you. Also, the moment you notice that some of your friends and family have begun to cross that line and they’re now bordering on being disrespectful, don’t hesitate to put them in their place or you can just put quality distance between yourselves because this is a zero-tolerance zone.

Love,

’Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

What’s Popping?

Have you been in a position where familiarity bred contempt?

I mean, have you been in a position where someone saw you finish?

How did you handle it?

What are you taking away from this blog post?

Please share your thoughts in the comment section. You know how much I love hearing from you!