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2019 had lessons, Okay?

Compliments of the season, everyone!! How are you doing? Hope your December was Detty enough. In case you hadn’t realized, December ends tomorrow. If you’re among those that have been shouting Detty December up and down without actually doing anything, I sincerely hope you drop the spirit of blasphemy and false alarms in 2019.

Season’s Greetings, dears.

As for those of us that only had Christmas Day to look forward to, hope you enjoyed it for two because I didn’t get to taste 2019 Christmas rice. πŸ˜ͺπŸ˜ͺ Why? I’ll tell you. I fell ill on Christmas Day and ended up getting three painful injections and ORT for Christmas. Good health is seriously underrated. Just imagine being surrounded by food that you can’t eat 😭 I still managed to have little fun and I’m much better now. I’m trying to publish this so I can get back to the series I’m watching – The Witcher. It’s on Netflix, it’s really nice and it has 8 episodes in season one. That’s the good part. The bad part is that we’re gonna have to wait two years before season two comes out.

2019 was good. It was long. I experienced the good, the bad and the ugly. If 2019 was a person, I would have summoned it to ask some serious questions about how I was treated. 2019 would have probably said something like “I threw those experiences at you in order to make you stronger and prepared for what’s to come in the coming years”. I am just glad that I was not consumed by what I went through because I found myself always asking “who did I offend?”. I hit some low points and some pretty high points this year and I learned a whole lot.

If you’ve read up to this point, this is where I share some of my ‘2019 lessons’ with you.
Okay, here we go;

GOD IS FOREVER THE PLUG: I’m not coming to preach or anything but 2019 taught me that without God, I am nothing. I am absolutely nothing!! I know how many tight situations I found myself in, how many times I fell ill, how many exams I had to write without reading enough and how many times I stopped being faithful but God saw me through. All I had to do was talk to him and ask the Holy Spirit to lead me. I couldn’t have asked for a better helper. Maybe I wouldn’t be writing this if it wasn’t for God.
I had an accident too that could have been worse than it was but God kept me. The devil really tried it with me but he’s a failed, failing failure because my trust is in the right source.

PEOPLE CAN SWITCH UP ON YOU AT ANY TIME: Allow me laugh first. You can join me in laughing if you can relate to what I’m going to write here. Some of the people I was really close to at the beginning of the year are not close to me anymore. Some of them turned strangers while I just had to let some go. There are people that I confided in that used my truths to taunt me. There were others that I trusted that broke my trust. There were others that made me question my self esteem, the ones that made me feel bad about myself. If I had been told at the beginning of 2019 that I wouldn’t be speaking to some of the people I was close to, I’d have called the person a hater. But look at. It’s really funny.
There are others that stayed though and as I counted my losses, I also counted my wins because I still have great friends that I wouldn’t trade for the world. Not to mention the ones that came into my life as the year began to end. Y’all are the real MVPs and I’m so grateful.

NO NEED TO COMPROMISE: This past year, I found myself making choices I wouldn’t make normally. I lowered my standards at some point because I wanted to please lmao. I used to tell myself that it didn’t matter. It mattered in the end because when I think back at some of the choices I made, I know I could have done better. You do not need to lower your standards for anybody. There should be what you will accept and what you will not. There are some people that should not be allowed to talk to you just as they like. There are some insults you will not take. It is not pride. It is self respect. Never settle for less.

THEY ARE WATCHING: People are watching. No matter how low key you think you are, there are always people observing. You may think that you’re hidden and nobody is looking at you but my brothers and sisters, someone is always there. I’ll never forget the day someone I didn’t know entered my dm on Twitter during one of those breaks I took from writing and said that he’s a reader of my blog and he noticed that I hadn’t posted anything in a while and he just wanted to check up on me to see if everything was okay. I can’t even describe how I felt that day! I was like “oh, this is me doing my stuff here and there’s actually someone that looks forward to this?” It warmed my heart.
In the same vein, there are also people that look up to you, whether you know it or not. So just be you, strive to be better and be careful too because there are also others that don’t want to see you do good.

NIGERIAN MUSIC IS NOT THAT BAD: I know, I know. Please don’t @ me. At the beginning of 2019 and the years before, you’d have heard me say things like “I don’t listen to Nigerian music”, “Is Davido the name of a biscuit?”, “Turn off your noise abeg”. But some of the people I hung out with this year made me see the beauty in some Nigerian songs (emphasis on some) and they made me appreciate some of our Artistes and their music. They are really trying and it feels good to be part of it even if it’s just by listening.

Okay, everyone. I didn’t want this to be too long and there are other lessons that I learned that are really personal but like I said, 2019 was a good year and I’m so grateful for everything but I cannot wait for 2020 because I’m optimistic that 2020 will be my best year yet. In the mean time, let me get back to my movie.

This is officially my end of year post and I just want to appreciate each and every one of you for sticking with Ruonaahsculture!! Thank you for taking time out to read my random thoughts. It means a lot. This is where I should do a giveaway but I’ve not blown yet. Come 2020, Ruonaahsculture will be coming back bigger and better by God’s grace. I can’t wait to see you all next year. Thank you, Thank you and a Happy New Year in advance to you and yours! πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ


Ruona ❀️


How was Christmas? Who has Detty December gist for me?

What lessons did 2019 teach you?

What’s one thing you’re thanking God for in 2019?

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Hello everyone! It’s been a while! I hinted in my last post that I wouldn’t be available for some time but I’m back in full force now. I’ve been knee deep in school work and exams were a tad bit stressful but I give God all the glory ‘cos your girl is now in 400 level!! πŸ₯³

Didn’t you hear me??! Your girl is officially in her FINAL YEAR!! *cue zanku* πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

400 level pose πŸ˜ŽπŸ˜ŽπŸ˜‚

This brings me to what I’m going to do today. I hardly ever do any appreciation posts because I believe that the ones that are close to me should know I love them and stuff. Also, all these mushy stuff does me one kind in my body. The subject will now be feeling fly and funky πŸ™„ but as I thought about the time I’ve spent in school from 2016 till now, I realized how grateful I am. I’m grateful to God Almighty who has kept me till this moment, I’m grateful to my parents and my brother who have been so supportive but this publication today is for three girls that have played major roles in my life since the day I met them here in school, Delta State University, Abraka. When I think about them, I just go “thank you Lord for bringing these people into my life”.

If you’ve read up to this point, just read till the end. I want you to meet these girls who have given me so much love. Sigh. I promised myself I won’t cry. Okay, here goes.

Meet BENNY!!

See this girl? This girl is my day one. Literally. The first day I went for faculty and departmental screening was the day I met her and we’ve been friends till date. Honestly, I don’t see her as a friend anymore. She’s my sister. Benny is so selfless! Benny is always willing to give! She’s always concerned about what I’m going to eat. She always gives a listening ear and every advice she gives is precious to me. Benny has been making my hair since 100 level. Benny makes sure I don’t look like a house girl next to her (she slays yunno?) She knows every single dress I own. πŸ˜‚ She’s always calm and collected even when I’m panicking and she thinks fast and has a solution to issues almost every time. She’s the yin to my yang, she never likes seeing me sad. If I’m frowning, you’ll just hear something like “Ruona, repair that face now”.

Benny, words cannot describe how much you mean to me. You’re one of the many blessings that God has given to me and I’m grateful you’re in my life. So, so grateful. I love you, Benedicta.

I met Benny first and while I was still thanking God, He sent me another person, SOPHIA!

See this girl?? She has a heart that’s as pretty as her face. I love her so much, it annoys me at times. Sophia is my confidante, my walking diary. I can tell her anything and everything and she listens and never judges. Her sense of humor is just something else. Sophia introduced me to a whole new set of friends. She’s always there when I need her. You should hear her sing. She encourages me to love God more, she makes me want to be a better person. Sophia gets me. She always understands. The only day we got mad at each other, I started crying. I couldn’t eat or read. I guess when they say you find your soulmate, it doesn’t necessarily have to be the opposite sex. Sophia is my soulmate. Even the fact that she can be annoying gives me joy.

We’re going to 400 level now and she’s a medical student so she’s going to another town entirely to continue. I’m going to miss her so much tho’ I’ll deny it if anyone asks. I remind her all that I love her all the time πŸ™„ She knows it.

Okay πŸ˜ͺ okay πŸ˜ͺ I said I’m not gonna cry. I’m a big girl πŸ˜ͺ The last but not the least person I want you to meet today is my guy for life, JULIET!!

The story about how I met Juliet is a funny one but it’s obvious that God sent her to me because I would not have imagined in a million years that the person I met while working at Choba in Port Harcourt would be my roommate.

Juliet is all shades of fun, my personal hype woman!! I don’t know what I’d do without you, always making sure I’m eating and not looking sick πŸ˜‚ Juliet is responsible for most of the weight I’ve added in school. She comes with peace of mind and her vibe and energy is contagious. Juliet can cook! She can bake!! Nobody can do shakara with baked goods for me because I have my personal caterer. Juliet has taught me to be stronger and to never give up. Juliet is a giver! She has been a huge source of encouragement, a blessing. Talking with Juliet is calming and fulfilling.

We’ve had our ups and downs but I’ll never trade my Julieee for anything. I’m grateful. You don’t know how much.

Have you read up to this point? Thanks for sticking around. This just had to be done. It’s been long overdue. I may not have so much to give these girls right now (cos I’m still waiting to blow 🀧) but I really want them to know how grateful I am because they’ve made my stay in school as smooth as oil.

I appreciate you guys so much. I’m counting my blessings and you are a part of them. May God bless you for me. Thank you πŸ€—


‘Ruona ❀️

P.S: Next πŸ”₯ post coming real soon.