Posted in Random

Book Review: Me Before You.

Last Friday, I asked people on my Instagram story what they’d like to read on my blog and about four of them said they’d like to read book reviews and summaries and I’ll be reviewing “Me Before You”, a book by Jojo Moyes published in 2012. It was adapted to a movie in 2016. How cool is that?

Um… I have a confession to make – I’ve never done this before, I’m a virgin to book reviews and I’m shy lol. There’s a reason for this tho’. Reading has always been a means of escape from reality because, with these books, I develop my vocabulary and I’m free to allow my imaginations to run wild. Also, reading books is something I do because I want to and not because I’m being told to do so. I think that’s what takes the fun out of school books. We read them because we have to and not necessarily because we want to. I read random genres which often include romance, thrillers, mystery, and the usual teen fiction.

In a way, I feel like writing a book review means that I have to explain what I’ve read to you and it’s low-key like an exam because I’d just give you a link to where I downloaded the books instead of explaining but what kind of person would I be if I didn’t give you what you asked for?

Let’s get to it, shall we?

ME BEFORE YOU

“Me Before You”, published in 2012 by Jojo Moyes is a novel about two characters who under normal circumstances would not have met but Louisa Clark, a simple but quirky woman who has just lost her job and is looking for another finds herself as a caregiver in the home of Will Traynor, a quadriplegic who gives the first impression as rude and utterly cynical.

However, both of them slowly find a balance and develop a friendship. Will encourages Louisa to come out of her bubble and try new things. Louisa, although hesitant begins to learn about new stuff and lets loose a little and this puts a smile on Will’s face.

In the course of her caregiving, she finds out that Will has plans of his own – he has decided that his suffering is too much and this is not the life he wants to live, especially since he was adventurous by nature, someone who had previously climbed mountains, skydived and traveled the world for fun. Will cannot reconcile his present life with his previous one as he’s stuck in a wheelchair and has to depend on people to do things for him all the time.

When Louisa finds out that he plans to take his life through assisted suicide at a set date, she does all she can to ensure that she changes his mind. She puts effort into planning different activities to show Will that he can be paralyzed and still have a life worth living. She tries to give him some of her happiness but her efforts may not be enough to change his mind.

I saw the movie before I read the book (Me Before You was adapted into a movie in 2016) and I loved every bit of it. This book is not your typical romance novel but to a great extent, it teaches you to appreciate life in every form because there are people who do not have the choice that most of us have. Also, Jojo Moyes shows us that we don’t have to settle because there’s a whole world in front of us. Also, that mediocrity never conquers much.

Jojo Moyes portrays the characters in Me Before You in a way that you can relate to them on many levels and although the novel is mostly written in Louisa’s POV, she adds points of view from other characters to give clarity. She also portrays the wars of quadriplegia, as well as the psychological toll it takes on its victims, straightforwardly. She doesn’t represent life the way we want it to be, but she portrays it as it is – with harsh realities.

This book may cause controversy in the sense that some people do not believe that suicide is acceptable, no matter what. Also, it might seem that all hope is lost to people who are in the same situation as Will. I mean, imagine a quadriplegic having to go through the various emotions caused by “Me Before You”. It will probably depress his/her depression.

However, it was realistic and I cried. A lot. But it was a great read and I’ll probably read it again, seeing as I’ve seen the movie at least three times since 2016.

The book has sequels:

AFTER YOU
STILL ME

I downloaded “Me Before You” from this site. You should read it if you liked this review.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️.

P.S:

How are you doing?

What did you think of my first attempt at reviewing a book?

Have you read “Me Before You” or seen the movie?

Do you think you’d like to read the book?

Please let me know in the comment section. Your responses give me joy! 💜

Posted in Relationship

Before Your Valentine.

I shouldn’t do this, especially since it’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow but if I don’t tell you the truth, who will?

All I want to do is give you friendly advice and I’d like to start by saying:

May you not be stuck in one spot, anchored by the profound, desperate loneliness of a bad relationship.

Can I get an Amen?

There’s no denying that love is a beautiful thing but you’ll agree with me that not all love is love. I have learned from observation that people mistake love for a lot of things and it’s sad. People mistake love for attention, sex, and material things among others but these things don’t even begin to define what love is. Some people are so desperate to be with someone and so scared to be alone that they’ll settle for anything and somehow trick their minds into believing that it’s right.

So, as you do your lovers stuff tomorrow, I just want to remind you that love is so much more than what we see. The moment you realize that in your relationship, you’re beginning to settle, you know that there’s an issue somewhere.

You should mean as much to your partner as they mean to you. You shouldn’t have to fight to be heard in your relationship. Your opinions should matter and you should have more good memories than bad. You should feel the love not just in words but in actions too. Your fights shouldn’t be against each other. You should know that when fights happen, it’s not you against him/her but both of you against the issue. Don’t forget. There should be an effort on both sides because a relationship involves giving and taking.

In the end, we know that there’s no perfect relationship because these things are filled with ups and downs (Cheating isn’t one of them. Don’t even think about it) but in the end, you have to know what you want and be sure that you’re not settling for less than you deserve. You have to be sure that you’re not lying to yourself or making excuses for a partner that does not intend to change. See your relationship for what it is.

As I said, it’s just friendly advice I’m giving to you but if you’re beginning to reconsider your relationship, it’s probably for the best. I mean, why spend so much money and put time and effort into a partner that doesn’t deserve it when you can spend this money on me?

Please, you can send me a dm on Instagram to ask me for my address or account number just in case you want to redirect your gifts. You know I mean well. You can also send pictures and videos to me so I can scream “aww” and “God when”.

Shoutout to every genuine person who does not need a specific day to show love or perform romantic gestures because you do it all year round (I don’t mean the ones that say this as an excuse). You are the real MVPs.

Have a splendid Valentine’s Day.

Love,

‘Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

I didn’t publish last week and nobody looked for me. Wow. Just wow.

I forgive you. How are you doing?

What do you think about people that settle in relationships?

Do you have plans for Valentine’s Day or you’re part of the “aww” and “God when” crew like me?

Please make use of the comment box. You know how much I love reading from and replying you! 💜