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Mistakes? Yes. Learning? Yes.

4:16 am: Currently listening to Promises by Maverick City Music.

Hi, I missed you. We’re in 2021, not much has changed but we give God the praise. Happy New Year.

As much as I started this year with hope, I didn’t start with much enthusiasm because I wish the year started under different circumstances but it is what it is.

How are you doing? Is this year treating you right? I’m alright if you’re asking. I came into this year with my sense of humor so that’s okay yeah? It seems like January will be a long one and I hope you’re prepared because how is today still the 8th? I mean, by this time last year, it was already my birthday!

Do you remember the guy who threw the cob of corn he was eating at me last year? If you didn’t read the gist or you’ve forgotten, you can read it right here. Well, he said he’s sorry. He didn’t even realize what he had done. He just wanted to know why I stopped talking to him. He had been trying to talk to me on numerous occasions since I got back home but I always ignored him. One day, he just shouted “it’s not fair o. What did I do?” so I stopped and reminded him and you should have seen the expression on his face. He apologized and kept asking for forgiveness for the next few days after that, using the famous “to err is human and to forgive is divine” line. He’s been forgiven but I don’t think I want the whole relationship to continue. It was annoying but I know people make mistakes and some of them deserve second chances.

Speaking of mistakes, is anyone really above making them? Who is that perfect? I know I’m not but I try, keyword being try. Most mistakes that people make are never intentional. I mean, it’s not like that girl plans to burn the pot of stew her mother asked her to warm because she’s engrossed in a series or she’s chatting with a man (Mummy, I’m sorry for all the food I burned. I was young and inexperienced 🤲) or it’s not like that person meant to lash out and say those horrible words to you (although, the person may have meant to because there’s nothing stopping people from being horrible these days). Let’s just leave the mistakes at surface level, shall we? I’m not putting an unwanted pregnancy as part of my list of mistakes because obviously, you knew what would happen when you were doing the do unprotected.

Anyways, the thing is that we have made and we will make mistakes, and even if we can’t do anything about our mother’s pots of food that we destroyed, we can make conscious decisions to pay attention in the kitchen so we don’t make the same mistakes again. The same goes for every other mistake, what effort are you making to make things right again?

Most times, it’s not even a person’s mistake that defines the individual. It’s what the person does after that does. In fact, why should your mistakes define you? If you fall, you get up again and keep moving. If you fail, you rise again and keep learning because in the end, mistakes might happen and you might not see them coming but it doesn’t have to define you.

Funny enough when I tweeted this, I didn’t know what I’d publish.

So like I said, mistakes are inevitable, and just in case they happen, it’s not the end of the world but if you can avoid them, please do in Jesus’ name. In case it’s too late, do not let it define you. Pick yourself up and move on.

5:08 am: Currently listening to Most Beautiful by Maverick City Music.

This year just started and nobody knows what the coming months will bring but this is just me reminding you that it’s okay to make mistakes. I might make some mistakes too but will I learn from them or let them define me? I have learned that life is a learning process so don’t stop trying because what is perfect really?

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

How has your year been so far? Any good news? Please share!

Who else thinks that this year is moving too slowly?

Have you made mistakes? Yes or yes? How did you deal with them?

Do you think I should still be friendly towards that guy?

Do you believe that there are people that are perfect or above mistakes?

Have you listened to Maverick City Music?

Please tell a friend about Ruonaahsculture and leave your comments in the comment box below. You know how much I love hearing from you 💜.

Posted in Random

365/366

The past 300 days were a lot and honestly, to be present in this world after everything that happened is a gift in itself because, despite all odds, we made it this far 🥺.

I want to say thank you. Thank you for sticking with this blog, thank you for clicking on my links, dropping your thoughts, and sharing my work even when you didn’t have to. You encourage me to do this thing I love doing and it means so much to me. Thank you for being a part of my year.

When I started writing this, I didn’t know the direction this post will go but all I could feel was how grateful I was and I legit struggled with words to express how I was feeling so I decided to just flow with it because why not?

There’s no need to recount the things that happened this year because, for some, it was more of losses than gains. I won in some areas but I lost too and there’s no way I’ll ever forget this year because this has been the most trying year for me emotionally, spiritually and even physically but despite everything, I am grateful.

2020 taught me a lot but one major thing I learned this year is that life can play you anytime. Do you think you have it figured out? You’re wrong. If you don’t believe in God and yourself, there’s every possibility that things can come crashing down. If you’re not intentional about what you do and why you’re doing it, you might just end up losing your way.

Life can play you anytime.

In all honesty, nothing is guaranteed. What if you lose a job or the love of your life says he/she doesn’t want to be with you anymore or someone dies? I mean, nobody plans for any of these circumstances and this year didn’t prepare us for any of these but you see, they happened and we’ve been dealing with them in one way or another and while it’s okay to feel bad for some time, how long is enough? What do we do to move on especially as 2021 is coming?

Don’t get me wrong. I know that entering a new year doesn’t automatically take the pain of these past 365 days away but learning what I’ve learned this year, I’ve realized that we need to make sure our lives have meaning at all times. Do not put off making yourself happy and do not forget to live for yourself instead of living for others. Yes, you’re allowed to be selfish sometimes because you matter. Be kind, selfless, and be many shades of positive because we don’t know what tomorrow may bring.

One other thing… In a world such as this, there’s no need for you to downplay other people’s happiness and excitement. Allow other people to breathe and do not make them feel guilty for being happy. Do not be a sadist for no reason. How long should people wallow in pain, please? It would do a lot of good if you quit making people feel terrible and you quit reminding them of their pain and problems especially if you have no solution. Just let love lead because it is hard enough as it is.

I’ve chosen to start 2021 with hope and I’ve decided to take one day at a time. It may not be easy but I’m determined to drown my pessimism in my optimism. I’m going to fight for those I love and the things I believe in. I don’t want to be scared anymore. I’m going to make this next year work for me by God’s grace and I hope it will be better, I hope it gets better.

Thank you again for all you do. See you next year.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

How are you doing?

Describe 2020 in one word

Let’s take a minute to hail Mr & Mrs. Scissors that have started cutting people off 😏

What are your plans for 2021?

Happy New Year in advance.

Please share your thoughts in my comment box. You know I love hearing from you! 💜