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What’s Your Passion?

Happy New Year!! We made it into 2020!! I know I’m late but in my defense, it’s just day 20 out of 365 days. We have the freedom to trade ’Happy New Years’ till the first half of the year is over anyway and I really don’t want to start 2020 with apologies. I know you understand.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!! 💜

Forgive my manners, though. How have you been? How’s 2020 so far? I sincerely hope you’re okay because I am. The harmattan has been on and off but it’s pretty cold right now.
You know, it’s funny but inspiration tends to hit harder when I’m up early in the morning and honestly, I think the reason I haven’t written before now is that I’ve been waiting for something big to happen, forgetting that there’s nothing wrong with capturing the little moments around us. Sigh.

I slept off right after I finished typing that.

I continued writing this at 9:43 am yesterday. It was a beautiful Sunday morning and I wasn’t able to go to church due to circumstances beyond my control. It was pretty cold and I couldn’t feel my toes. I eventually completed this writeup at 10:54 am and I planned to publish later in the day but Network was so terrible that I eventually gave up. Now it’s 3:41 am and I’m editing this work and it’s annoying that my Uncle who has refused to agree that I’m his favorite niece didn’t get to see my birthday wish yesterday. Well, this is me wishing my Uncle a belated Happy Birthday.

I’m just going to do a quick recap of my life for the past two or is it three weeks? Well, since the year started, I’ve been thinking about school work and all. Imagine, our exams were supposed to start on the 20th of January (lmao that’s even today 😂😂😂😂 ) I’m laughing because as at two weeks ago, I wasn’t prepared to enter any exam hall. The date was shifted till next month, there’s ample time to prepare, I’ve started studying and I won’t cry when I’m finally faced with my exams. In fact, my papers will fear me 😌

Just look at 😂

At one point these past few weeks, I couldn’t write anything. Like, thoughts refused to flow into words. It was annoying. I even asked people to give me ideas and I’m grateful for everyone who took time out to discuss ideas for Ruonaahsculture with me. It really helped a lot.

Eseosa posted this, I reposted it.

I remember one time at my grandma’s house when my Uncle was quizzing me, my brother and my cousins on what we had a passion for, what our passion was.

My granny is a lovely woman

He asked us what passion meant and I cannot remember what my reply was but the Merriam Webster dictionary defines it as an intense, driving, or overmastering feeling or conviction towards something or a strong liking or desire for or devotion to some activity, object, or concept.

Your passion is something that you’re always driven to do. It’s something that you’d be comfortable with doing anytime and anywhere. Most of the time, the things you’re passionate about are your hobbies. I got to realize how passionate I was about putting my thoughts on paper about 6 years ago and I eventually decided to start my blog in my 100 level.

Christian Fisher wrote that knowing your passion in life gives you something to build the rest of your life around. Your passion can be anything that simultaneously challenges you, intrigues you and motivates you. Contrary to the idea that doing what you love makes work effortless, a passion puts you to work. It’s what you’re willing to sacrifice lesser leisure and pleasures for.

People are different and they have different things they’re passionate about but one mistake some people tend to make is doing something because someone else is doing it. This is different from being inspired by other people. This is pure copy cat attitude and often, you’d find out that these people don’t exactly succeed in what they do because they don’t genuinely have the passion for it. For example, blogging generates a lot of income. You’re someone who doesn’t exactly like writing but just because you’ve seen a friend making money from it, you decide to try it too. You’ll find out that your actions surrounding that blog will be forced and you’ll basically consider it as being stressful. Your passion doesn’t stress you. Instead, it motivates you. If you do not like something, you cannot be motivated by it. I mean, it’s not rocket science.

Stop being busy doing what you don’t like to do. You don’t necessarily have to have a lot of things that you’re passionate about. You might not necessarily be earning from it but it’s what drives you, okay? I guess what I’m just trying to say it that you should find that one thing that makes you happy because why not? If you haven’t discovered what your passion is yet, don’t fret. There’s still time. I mean, I can wake up one day when I’m probably 40 and realize that I have a passion for football (okay, I’m joking 🙃 That’s never gonna happen 😂😂😂) Meanwhile, just do you and with time, you’ll discover that special thing that makes you happy, that thing that drives you.

Okay, I’m done editing and I’m going back to schoolwork. I actually believe what people say about your brain assimilating more in the early hours of the morning. You might see me here next month, maybe when I come back to talk about Valentine’s day or something. I can’t wait to be consistent. I’m just counting down. I’m going to publish this later in the day when everyone will be awake. I really hope you have a great week ahead.

Love,

’Ruona ❤️

P.S:

What are you passionate about and why?

Did you go to church yesterday?

What’s happening today?

How is 2020 treating you?

Harmattan nko?

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2019 had lessons, Okay?

Compliments of the season, everyone!! How are you doing? Hope your December was Detty enough. In case you hadn’t realized, December ends tomorrow. If you’re among those that have been shouting Detty December up and down without actually doing anything, I sincerely hope you drop the spirit of blasphemy and false alarms in 2019.

Season’s Greetings, dears.

As for those of us that only had Christmas Day to look forward to, hope you enjoyed it for two because I didn’t get to taste 2019 Christmas rice. 😪😪 Why? I’ll tell you. I fell ill on Christmas Day and ended up getting three painful injections and ORT for Christmas. Good health is seriously underrated. Just imagine being surrounded by food that you can’t eat 😭 I still managed to have little fun and I’m much better now. I’m trying to publish this so I can get back to the series I’m watching – The Witcher. It’s on Netflix, it’s really nice and it has 8 episodes in season one. That’s the good part. The bad part is that we’re gonna have to wait two years before season two comes out.

2019 was good. It was long. I experienced the good, the bad and the ugly. If 2019 was a person, I would have summoned it to ask some serious questions about how I was treated. 2019 would have probably said something like “I threw those experiences at you in order to make you stronger and prepared for what’s to come in the coming years”. I am just glad that I was not consumed by what I went through because I found myself always asking “who did I offend?”. I hit some low points and some pretty high points this year and I learned a whole lot.

If you’ve read up to this point, this is where I share some of my ‘2019 lessons’ with you.
Okay, here we go;

GOD IS FOREVER THE PLUG: I’m not coming to preach or anything but 2019 taught me that without God, I am nothing. I am absolutely nothing!! I know how many tight situations I found myself in, how many times I fell ill, how many exams I had to write without reading enough and how many times I stopped being faithful but God saw me through. All I had to do was talk to him and ask the Holy Spirit to lead me. I couldn’t have asked for a better helper. Maybe I wouldn’t be writing this if it wasn’t for God.
I had an accident too that could have been worse than it was but God kept me. The devil really tried it with me but he’s a failed, failing failure because my trust is in the right source.

PEOPLE CAN SWITCH UP ON YOU AT ANY TIME: Allow me laugh first. You can join me in laughing if you can relate to what I’m going to write here. Some of the people I was really close to at the beginning of the year are not close to me anymore. Some of them turned strangers while I just had to let some go. There are people that I confided in that used my truths to taunt me. There were others that I trusted that broke my trust. There were others that made me question my self esteem, the ones that made me feel bad about myself. If I had been told at the beginning of 2019 that I wouldn’t be speaking to some of the people I was close to, I’d have called the person a hater. But look at. It’s really funny.
There are others that stayed though and as I counted my losses, I also counted my wins because I still have great friends that I wouldn’t trade for the world. Not to mention the ones that came into my life as the year began to end. Y’all are the real MVPs and I’m so grateful.

NO NEED TO COMPROMISE: This past year, I found myself making choices I wouldn’t make normally. I lowered my standards at some point because I wanted to please lmao. I used to tell myself that it didn’t matter. It mattered in the end because when I think back at some of the choices I made, I know I could have done better. You do not need to lower your standards for anybody. There should be what you will accept and what you will not. There are some people that should not be allowed to talk to you just as they like. There are some insults you will not take. It is not pride. It is self respect. Never settle for less.

THEY ARE WATCHING: People are watching. No matter how low key you think you are, there are always people observing. You may think that you’re hidden and nobody is looking at you but my brothers and sisters, someone is always there. I’ll never forget the day someone I didn’t know entered my dm on Twitter during one of those breaks I took from writing and said that he’s a reader of my blog and he noticed that I hadn’t posted anything in a while and he just wanted to check up on me to see if everything was okay. I can’t even describe how I felt that day! I was like “oh, this is me doing my stuff here and there’s actually someone that looks forward to this?” It warmed my heart.
In the same vein, there are also people that look up to you, whether you know it or not. So just be you, strive to be better and be careful too because there are also others that don’t want to see you do good.

NIGERIAN MUSIC IS NOT THAT BAD: I know, I know. Please don’t @ me. At the beginning of 2019 and the years before, you’d have heard me say things like “I don’t listen to Nigerian music”, “Is Davido the name of a biscuit?”, “Turn off your noise abeg”. But some of the people I hung out with this year made me see the beauty in some Nigerian songs (emphasis on some) and they made me appreciate some of our Artistes and their music. They are really trying and it feels good to be part of it even if it’s just by listening.

Okay, everyone. I didn’t want this to be too long and there are other lessons that I learned that are really personal but like I said, 2019 was a good year and I’m so grateful for everything but I cannot wait for 2020 because I’m optimistic that 2020 will be my best year yet. In the mean time, let me get back to my movie.

This is officially my end of year post and I just want to appreciate each and every one of you for sticking with Ruonaahsculture!! Thank you for taking time out to read my random thoughts. It means a lot. This is where I should do a giveaway but I’ve not blown yet. Come 2020, Ruonaahsculture will be coming back bigger and better by God’s grace. I can’t wait to see you all next year. Thank you, Thank you and a Happy New Year in advance to you and yours! 💜💜💜💜💜

Love,

Ruona ❤️

P.S:

How was Christmas? Who has Detty December gist for me?

What lessons did 2019 teach you?

What’s one thing you’re thanking God for in 2019?

Do you have any suggestions that could make Ruonaahsculture better in this coming year?

Please feel free to use the comment box below. You know how much I love reading and replying. Thank you!!

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DETTY DECEMBER

I miss writing. I haven’t had time for myself since and sometimes, when I think about publishing, I’ll remember all the school stuff I’m supposed to be doing. Sigh.

I’ve been keeping myself company with publications from other bloggers. I mean, if I’m not able to write without feeling that I’m not giving importance to other things in my life, I can read. Here’s something I read on Taisah’s Diary owned by my girl, Hasiat today. She’s quite funny and you’ll like it because it’s a relatable topic so click here.

How are you doing by the way? You had better be good ’cos, after all, it’s almost Christmas. Meanwhile, I may look alright, calm and collected but deep down, I want my Mummy and Daddy to buy me Christmas clothes and shoes this year. I mean, I’m still your baby girl, Mr. and Mrs. Asak. 😪
Soo, what are your plans for Christmas? are you going to turn up? Do you have money for Detty December? Well, if you don’t have money or if your December is going to be low key like mine, you can join in this Detty December challenge my boo found on the internet:

You don’t need so much money for these.

Speaking of money, I HOPE YOU KNOW HOW JANUARY USUALLY IS?! Yes, dear. I’m shouting for emphasis because if you remember correctly, January this year was like three months in one. Please, while you’re turning up for December, remember to save because January is usually very long and people are usually broke. You can say how kind I am and how I always have your best interests at heart in the comment box.

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Moving on, I know I’m pretty late on this but Fireboy’s album!!! If you have anything bad to say about that album, you are a hater and we should submit your case to Jesus. That album is the first Nigerian album I’ve listened to on repeat. I like all the songs and do you know one thing that makes it unique? Fireboy did not feature any other artists on his album and he still produced fire!! The guy is good abeg.

Alright..

What do you want to talk about today? Sorry, what do you want to read about? When I started writing this, I didn’t have anything in mind but now, I’m thinking that since the year is gradually coming to an end, we should talk about some stuff that need to be fixed before 2020. I’m just going to write them as they come to mind.

WATCH YOUR TONGUE: So, we all know that some people do not have manners. They don’t have manners at all. There are people that will go out of their way to be blatantly rude to you for no reason. Frankly speaking, some people will just make you feel terrible as if you’re the cause of their problems. We have often heard this saying that “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. But no! They’ll just drain your self confidence and if you’re maybe feeling depressed, they’ll depress your depression too. Smh. What I’m trying to say is that if you’re someone that talks anyhow with no regard to other people’s feelings, please stop it because nobody is smiling with you anymore and I’m very sure that if the tables were turned, you won’t be able to take it. Words cannot be taken back, no matter how many times you say sorry. Be careful, don’t talk carelessly. In fact, drop the annoying attitude today. God bless you.

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO PEOPLE: I’ve talked about this so many times, so much that I’m confident that I can write a book on it (Mummy, please after reading this don’t come and tell me about how I should start writing a book. I have enough on my plate as it is. Thank you Ma). Okaaayyy, as I was saying; You’re your own unique version. Nobody, I repeat, Nobody is better than you are. You honestly don’t know how many people wish they could be where you are now. While you’re busy comparing yourself to others, you tend to miss out on the other great things about yourself. Just because you’re not where you want to be yet doesn’t mean you won’t get there. Walk at your own pace.

IF IT’S GONE, LET IT GO: A lot of us are guilty of holding on to the past, letting our past define us. As much as I believe that we should try to get closure, we should not dwell on it for so long. How exactly are you supposed to proceed with your life if you’re still holding on to what’s gone already? You’re basically holding on to nothing. There are some friendships and relationships that you just have to let go of not necessarily because you want to but because they’re not worth fighting for anymore. Holding on to these things just make you lose your peace.

This is me trying to make this blog post short so I’m going to stop here but I’m just gonna add that we should continually think positively and eat our fruits and vegetables.
I think we’ll be seeing each other one more time before this year ends. Meanwhile, just take care of you and stay happy.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

Detty December is a trending phrase on the internet which implies that people are going to have fun this month with the festivities and all.

What are your Detty December plans?

Have you started saving for January?

What other things do you think people should fix before 2020?

What do you think of Fireboy’s album?

Please do well to share your thoughts in the comment box below. Thank you!!