Posted in motivation, Random

You Cannot Please the World.

Not everybody will like you and that’s okay. It is fine because how many people do you want to impress really? Thinking about it, what’s there to gain especially if you have to pretend, make yourself uncomfortable and unhappy?

It’s very easy to say “Not everyone will like you” but sometimes, we forget that trying to please people or being concerned about what they think is part of being human. We care about what people think and we often want family, friends, and even strangers to like us. It’s how we’re wired. However, the honest reality is that not everyone will like the way you dress, how you think, and even you as a person. Sometimes, it’s because they don’t know you, and other times, it’s just because nothing you do will ever seem right in their eyes and as I said, it’s okay.

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Have you observed that it can be exhausting when you have to think about what each person will like? You want to please A and at the same time, you’re worried about pleasing B and you put so much effort into what they would like. Sometimes, you don’t even realize that you’re doing it. There was a point in my life where I cared so much about people liking me. I never wanted to get on their bad sides even when I wasn’t happy with whatever situation I was in. I wanted to be everyone’s friend and being everyone’s friend is not easy at all. I mean, people always have opinions on how you should live your life and it’s stressful, trying to fit in with their ideas on how your life should be. I learned that you cannot please everyone so I started filtering whatever opinions people had to give and listening to myself instead. It took a while but when I was finally able to rise above what everyone thought, it became easier.

you cannot please everyone

At first, it would seem like you’re on your own but at least you’re original. Most people often have to sacrifice the true versions of themselves because they want to please a group of people. You’ll find that the version of themselves being presented to the outside world is fake because they often suppress a lot of their opinions and emotions because they want to fit in. In the end, a person may not show the stuff he/she is made of because he/she is too busy letting people decide who he/she gets to be.

Most people often have to sacrifice the true versions of themselves because they want to please a group of people.

Sometimes, we find out that we’ve outgrown certain circles and that’s fine too. This is because, in growth, we learn that some people don’t fit in with what we believe in or that with them, there’s no common goal. Some people realize this and leave such circles but others stay because they’re scared of what people will say. They don’t leave their comfort zone and most times, they don’t fulfil potential because they care about what people will say.

Sometimes, we find out that we’ve outgrown certain circles and that’s fine.

It’s heartbreaking when people don’t get to try something new or develop their ideas because they feel that people will not like it. Why don’t you take the risk and find other people who have the same mind as you and will resonate with whatever it is that’s going on in your head? Some people will say “when you’re in Rome, act like the Romans” but for how long? You’re not Roman.

Truth is that no matter what you do and no matter how hard you try, you will not be liked by everyone because there are people who won’t like you for no just reason and you’ll just be wasting precious time, trying to please them. I mean, you don’t even like everyone so why should you go through all the stress of trying to make the whole world happy? Just do you and make you happy okay?

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️.

How are you doing? Don’t air me please.

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt you had to please people?

What’s one thing about you that nobody will ever change?

Have you ever left a circle or group of friends because you realized that they were holding you back?

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Posted in Relationship

Before Your Valentine.

I shouldn’t do this, especially since it’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow but if I don’t tell you the truth, who will?

All I want to do is give you friendly advice and I’d like to start by saying:

May you not be stuck in one spot, anchored by the profound, desperate loneliness of a bad relationship.

Can I get an Amen?

There’s no denying that love is a beautiful thing but you’ll agree with me that not all love is love. I have learned from observation that people mistake love for a lot of things and it’s sad. People mistake love for attention, sex, and material things among others but these things don’t even begin to define what love is. Some people are so desperate to be with someone and so scared to be alone that they’ll settle for anything and somehow trick their minds into believing that it’s right.

So, as you do your lovers stuff tomorrow, I just want to remind you that love is so much more than what we see. The moment you realize that in your relationship, you’re beginning to settle, you know that there’s an issue somewhere.

You should mean as much to your partner as they mean to you. You shouldn’t have to fight to be heard in your relationship. Your opinions should matter and you should have more good memories than bad. You should feel the love not just in words but in actions too. Your fights shouldn’t be against each other. You should know that when fights happen, it’s not you against him/her but both of you against the issue. Don’t forget. There should be an effort on both sides because a relationship involves giving and taking.

In the end, we know that there’s no perfect relationship because these things are filled with ups and downs (Cheating isn’t one of them. Don’t even think about it) but in the end, you have to know what you want and be sure that you’re not settling for less than you deserve. You have to be sure that you’re not lying to yourself or making excuses for a partner that does not intend to change. See your relationship for what it is.

As I said, it’s just friendly advice I’m giving to you but if you’re beginning to reconsider your relationship, it’s probably for the best. I mean, why spend so much money and put time and effort into a partner that doesn’t deserve it when you can spend this money on me?

Please, you can send me a dm on Instagram to ask me for my address or account number just in case you want to redirect your gifts. You know I mean well. You can also send pictures and videos to me so I can scream “aww” and “God when”.

Shoutout to every genuine person who does not need a specific day to show love or perform romantic gestures because you do it all year round (I don’t mean the ones that say this as an excuse). You are the real MVPs.

Have a splendid Valentine’s Day.

Love,

‘Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

I didn’t publish last week and nobody looked for me. Wow. Just wow.

I forgive you. How are you doing?

What do you think about people that settle in relationships?

Do you have plans for Valentine’s Day or you’re part of the “aww” and “God when” crew like me?

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