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Before Your Valentine.

I shouldn’t do this, especially since it’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow but if I don’t tell you the truth, who will?

All I want to do is give you friendly advice and I’d like to start by saying:

May you not be stuck in one spot, anchored by the profound, desperate loneliness of a bad relationship.

Can I get an Amen?

There’s no denying that love is a beautiful thing but you’ll agree with me that not all love is love. I have learned from observation that people mistake love for a lot of things and it’s sad. People mistake love for attention, sex, and material things among others but these things don’t even begin to define what love is. Some people are so desperate to be with someone and so scared to be alone that they’ll settle for anything and somehow trick their minds into believing that it’s right.

So, as you do your lovers stuff tomorrow, I just want to remind you that love is so much more than what we see. The moment you realize that in your relationship, you’re beginning to settle, you know that there’s an issue somewhere.

You should mean as much to your partner as they mean to you. You shouldn’t have to fight to be heard in your relationship. Your opinions should matter and you should have more good memories than bad. You should feel the love not just in words but in actions too. Your fights shouldn’t be against each other. You should know that when fights happen, it’s not you against him/her but both of you against the issue. Don’t forget. There should be an effort on both sides because a relationship involves giving and taking.

In the end, we know that there’s no perfect relationship because these things are filled with ups and downs (Cheating isn’t one of them. Don’t even think about it) but in the end, you have to know what you want and be sure that you’re not settling for less than you deserve. You have to be sure that you’re not lying to yourself or making excuses for a partner that does not intend to change. See your relationship for what it is.

As I said, it’s just friendly advice I’m giving to you but if you’re beginning to reconsider your relationship, it’s probably for the best. I mean, why spend so much money and put time and effort into a partner that doesn’t deserve it when you can spend this money on me?

Please, you can send me a dm on Instagram to ask me for my address or account number just in case you want to redirect your gifts. You know I mean well. You can also send pictures and videos to me so I can scream “aww” and “God when”.

Shoutout to every genuine person who does not need a specific day to show love or perform romantic gestures because you do it all year round (I don’t mean the ones that say this as an excuse). You are the real MVPs.

Have a splendid Valentine’s Day.

Love,

‘Ruona. ❤️

P.S:

I didn’t publish last week and nobody looked for me. Wow. Just wow.

I forgive you. How are you doing?

What do you think about people that settle in relationships?

Do you have plans for Valentine’s Day or you’re part of the “aww” and “God when” crew like me?

Please make use of the comment box. You know how much I love reading from and replying you! 💜

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You Don’t Rate Me 😏

You don’t rate me sha. If I should think about the amount of insult and disrespect you’ve brought to my name, I wouldn’t even be around you. I mean, what gives?
No, how do you expect me to feel? You toss me out of your mouth all the damned time and you’re not sincere about me. Do you think I’m like her? No babe, check well. I’m totally 1Cor. 13 and she’s the opposite! You know this so don’t you dare lie to me.

One would think that once you’d found me, you’d change and you’d eventually take me seriously but I’ve been wishing hopelessly because it’s obvious that you’re out to to shame me. I don’t even understand how you can paint her to look like me when it’s obvious that she’ll never be me. It’s like they’ve sworn for you. Yeah, they have. Those wicked village people of yours have decreed that you’ll never take me seriously, you’ll never appreciate me. Shame.

It’s no secret that you’ve used me for deceptive purposes, battered me with lies, caused me to lose my value in the eyes of people because of your unfaithfulness. They basically think I’m her now. There’s no difference anymore and it hurts. Why can’t you see me for me? Why can’t you present me the way I am? Why is it so difficult for you?

Just tell me what it is that you want. If you wanna be with me, be with me. If you’re choosing her, let me know but don’t confuse yourself or confuse people because I am done with this game.
Sincerely, if being with me is so hard, let me go but stop hurting people in my name because it isn’t fair and I can’t take it anymore.
So dear, choose. Yes, I said choose. Choose if you wanna be with LOVE or LUST ’cos I’m way more than all this and you’re gonna rate me.

Heeeeyyyy everyone!! Thank you for reading up to this point. In fact, thank you for sticking with Ruonaahsculture because guess what?! I am back like I never left!! Okay, I know I left but I had exams and if you’ve been keeping up with me, you’d find that I mentioned it in my previous post. Haven’t read it yet? Please click What’s Your Passion?

Meanwhile, just in case you didn’t totally get the raving and ranting above, I was trying to create a scene where someone was cheating on love with lust. You see, it’s common practice these days because people tend to clothe lust in love, totally disregarding the qualities of love itself and settling for lust instead. If you ask most people in relationships why they’re in love with their partners, you’d be amazed at the things you’d hear. I mean, how do you love someone because he or she has money or is fine or has dimples? Lol. What happened to the things inside that make up the person? Those ones are just ’jara’, really.
I know we’re learning every time and no relationship is perfect but it is what it is.

So, I was supposed to publish this on the 13th or 14th of this month but my exams that were originally supposed to end on the 14th started on the 17th and I had to give my best to school and I’m honestly glad it’s over. I actually woke up very early the day after I finished exams to read and then I realized that I was actually done 😂
I decided that I didn’t want to keep this in my draft unpublished especially since February is the month of love. You all know that there’s God in every move ’cos He gave me one more day to publish. Lol. Also, happy birthday to all the people I know that are born on the 29th of February!! It’s so cool that we get to celebrate you this year.

In other news, my mum’s birthday is tomorrow!!! Happy Birthday in advance, Mrs. Asak. I love you so much, mummy. God bless you and everything that concerns you. ❤️

Still on birthdays, mine is on the 18th of March (I’ll be back to remind you, don’t worry).
I actually have so much to say but I guess I’d stop here and give you the rest of the gist later. Hope you had an awesome February.

Love,

’Ruona ❤️

P.S:

”You don’t rate me” is a slang for ”no respect”, ”no value” or ”no regard”.

How was your valentines day?? Please I need gist 😩 I was reading for exams 😩

What are your thoughts on Love and Lust?

Could you please suggest movies for me to watch?

Please leave birthday wishes for my mum too 😊

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