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DETTY DECEMBER

I miss writing. I haven’t had time for myself since and sometimes, when I think about publishing, I’ll remember all the school stuff I’m supposed to be doing. Sigh.

I’ve been keeping myself company with publications from other bloggers. I mean, if I’m not able to write without feeling that I’m not giving importance to other things in my life, I can read. Here’s something I read on Taisah’s Diary owned by my girl, Hasiat today. She’s quite funny and you’ll like it because it’s a relatable topic so click here.

How are you doing by the way? You had better be good ’cos, after all, it’s almost Christmas. Meanwhile, I may look alright, calm and collected but deep down, I want my Mummy and Daddy to buy me Christmas clothes and shoes this year. I mean, I’m still your baby girl, Mr. and Mrs. Asak. 😪
Soo, what are your plans for Christmas? are you going to turn up? Do you have money for Detty December? Well, if you don’t have money or if your December is going to be low key like mine, you can join in this Detty December challenge my boo found on the internet:

You don’t need so much money for these.

Speaking of money, I HOPE YOU KNOW HOW JANUARY USUALLY IS?! Yes, dear. I’m shouting for emphasis because if you remember correctly, January this year was like three months in one. Please, while you’re turning up for December, remember to save because January is usually very long and people are usually broke. You can say how kind I am and how I always have your best interests at heart in the comment box.

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Moving on, I know I’m pretty late on this but Fireboy’s album!!! If you have anything bad to say about that album, you are a hater and we should submit your case to Jesus. That album is the first Nigerian album I’ve listened to on repeat. I like all the songs and do you know one thing that makes it unique? Fireboy did not feature any other artists on his album and he still produced fire!! The guy is good abeg.

Alright..

What do you want to talk about today? Sorry, what do you want to read about? When I started writing this, I didn’t have anything in mind but now, I’m thinking that since the year is gradually coming to an end, we should talk about some stuff that need to be fixed before 2020. I’m just going to write them as they come to mind.

WATCH YOUR TONGUE: So, we all know that some people do not have manners. They don’t have manners at all. There are people that will go out of their way to be blatantly rude to you for no reason. Frankly speaking, some people will just make you feel terrible as if you’re the cause of their problems. We have often heard this saying that “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. But no! They’ll just drain your self confidence and if you’re maybe feeling depressed, they’ll depress your depression too. Smh. What I’m trying to say is that if you’re someone that talks anyhow with no regard to other people’s feelings, please stop it because nobody is smiling with you anymore and I’m very sure that if the tables were turned, you won’t be able to take it. Words cannot be taken back, no matter how many times you say sorry. Be careful, don’t talk carelessly. In fact, drop the annoying attitude today. God bless you.

STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO PEOPLE: I’ve talked about this so many times, so much that I’m confident that I can write a book on it (Mummy, please after reading this don’t come and tell me about how I should start writing a book. I have enough on my plate as it is. Thank you Ma). Okaaayyy, as I was saying; You’re your own unique version. Nobody, I repeat, Nobody is better than you are. You honestly don’t know how many people wish they could be where you are now. While you’re busy comparing yourself to others, you tend to miss out on the other great things about yourself. Just because you’re not where you want to be yet doesn’t mean you won’t get there. Walk at your own pace.

IF IT’S GONE, LET IT GO: A lot of us are guilty of holding on to the past, letting our past define us. As much as I believe that we should try to get closure, we should not dwell on it for so long. How exactly are you supposed to proceed with your life if you’re still holding on to what’s gone already? You’re basically holding on to nothing. There are some friendships and relationships that you just have to let go of not necessarily because you want to but because they’re not worth fighting for anymore. Holding on to these things just make you lose your peace.

This is me trying to make this blog post short so I’m going to stop here but I’m just gonna add that we should continually think positively and eat our fruits and vegetables.
I think we’ll be seeing each other one more time before this year ends. Meanwhile, just take care of you and stay happy.

Love,

‘Ruona ❤️

P.S:

Detty December is a trending phrase on the internet which implies that people are going to have fun this month with the festivities and all.

What are your Detty December plans?

Have you started saving for January?

What other things do you think people should fix before 2020?

What do you think of Fireboy’s album?

Please do well to share your thoughts in the comment box below. Thank you!!

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Social Media Sef!

I promised myself that I’d upload every week. I promised myself!! I’ve been asking myself “what’s wrong?” for the past three weeks. The funny thing is that I don’t know! Or maybe I know why I haven’t been able to publish since. I’ve been overcome with some sort of brain laziness (if that’s even a thing).

It’s just that when I thought about writing, I’d just become weak. I have so many drafts that I couldn’t complete and I can’t even explain further but I sincerely want to appreciate everyone that checked up on me and asked about the next time I’d publish. The fact that you look forward to my blog posts means a whole lot to me.

I also want to appreciate two very special people that encouraged me and motivated me to write again. I love writing but it’s easy to get discouraged if there’s no one to encourage you. The last time something like this happened, I couldn’t write for three months. So, shout out to Molayo!! We started talking recently but I just mentioned the problem I was having to her and she was so encouraging, I almost cried. You can check out her blog Here. I’m also sending a shout out to Chidinma ThankGod. On another day when I wasn’t feeling motivated, she sent me this:

This hit the right spot!

So, all these being said, I would like to welcome you specially to another episode of “random thoughts by Ruona”. I know I’ve been out of it and if you’re still mad at me, you can state my punishment in the comment box but remember that God said we should forgive 70 times 7 times and I’m really sorry 😫

I’m drying tears 😭

Today however, I just wanna say that SOCIAL MEDIA CAN KILL SOMEBODY!! Yes dear, it’s a random rant today. I will not even start with the fact that social media burns data. I now use 1 gigabyte in a day. Me that hasn’t blown yet. Smh.

Just look at what I’m talking about.

But that’s not the point I’m trying to make.

So, it’s hard being a social media user especially on Instagram and Twitter (I don’t use Facebook for personal reasons) because you see a lot and it’s often hard to deduce the real from the fake. I often say that pictures lie and I believe it because on social media, people only post what they want you to see. At one point in my life, I used to compare myself to what I saw on Social media a lot! I know that majority of teenagers and youths tend to compare themselves to what they see on social media despite the fact that they know it’s fake. Most times, it’s done unconsciously and honestly, it’s not easy because I remember one time when I deleted all my pictures on Instagram because I felt that they weren’t good enough. It was some sort of inferiority complex.

Now, I upload selfies with my pimples 😂

Nowadays, people try to fit in on social media not minding the costs. It is now common knowledge that if you don’t post a picture wearing skimpy clothes, you won’t get as much likes or engagements on your post. So, imagine me, Oseruona Asak, wearing undies and posing in a seductive manner because I want likes on my instagram page 😂😂😂 it’s funny but it’s not funny. This media craze is another thing entirely. Let’s talk about picture quality now. If you’re not using an iPhone or a good android phone with great picture quality, most people believe that Instagram is not for you. So, because I don’t have an iPhone now, I can’t post my pictures in peace again because nobody will like it? Now tell me why people won’t steal? You don’t know what some of these people even do to get all these phones. You don’t know. You don’t know how talented these people are in editing pictures. You don’t know if that house or car they’re always taking pictures or making videos in are really theirs. As far as I’m concerned, who no know no go know.

What about those ones that borrow for the media? Borrow shoes, bags, glasses, clothes, HAIR!! and in fact everything borrowable so they can slay on the gram? And the innocent ones that dunno what’s going on will be chanting “God when, God when” and God will be wondering why this one is asking when she’ll start borrowing. It’s a fake life oh. It is fake life!! Fake, fake, fake!! You don’t know what these people do to reach their slay on social media. You’d even find that you’re better than they are. I rest my case. Just be you. Instagram cannot control you, social media can not control you. Have you heard?

Okay, Let’s leave Instagram. How about Twitter? Someone will just tweet something and before you know it, people have insulted the person’s followers out of his or her body. Some of these tweets, these “gbas gbos” can be funny at times but there are some things that people should not say to another human being. I’ve heard about cases where people have suicidal thoughts because of things that were said to them. In fact, it’s cyber bullying. How would people stay in the comfort of their houses and start insulting a person’s physical features? Is the person God? Where are instances when I need them?! (Please if you can relate to this and you have examples please enlighten others in the comment box). Funny enough, some of these people that run their mouths on Twitter cannot talk to you on a normal day when they see you on the road. It is well brethren, it is well.

Hmm. I rest my case.

On another note, did you know that yellow has different shades?

Okay, one more thing before I drop my pen. I’m not going to say much on the Xenophobic attacks on Nigerians in South Africa because enough has been said. I’m just going to say that Nigerians deserve better and it is well. Jeremiah 1:19.

May God help us all.

Love,

‘ Ruona ❤️

P.S:

Do you agree with this post?

What has been your social media experience so far?

Have you forgiven me for being MIA these past few weeks?

What are your thoughts on xenophobia in South Africa?

Feel free to use the comment box!